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Yes, I'm transgendered. Ask whatever you want too.[W:177]

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To provide a constructive discussion, yes I'm the poster known formally as Mr. Vicchio. I am now Renae. It would be Cassandra Renae but A: That is too long and B: The wife hates the name Cassandra, well the shorter "Cassie". Her sisters name is Cathy and when they were living in Germany that's how many natives pronounced her name.

So, what do you want to know, here's you chance I'm only doing this on this thread and this thread only. That should clear up any misconceptions.
 
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As best as you can describe it, what did you feel that convinced you that you would be happier living as a woman? Like, how did you know?
 
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X Factor said:
As best as you can describe it, what did you feel that convinced you that you would be happier living as a woman? Like, how did you know?
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Contentment. When I finally put aside all the other stuff, family, religion, cultural upbringing and realized I was spending so much time worrying about the world I got lost. Now that I'm accepting being her (Me, but for narrative purposes it makes it easier) I can't tell you how happy I am. How, just relieved I am to stop hiding. It's, amazingly liberating. I would like to rephrase your question, it's not that I would be happier living as a woman, it's that I am happy living as who I really am. Which is female. How do you know you're right handed? When your dad takes out to learn to toss a baseball. That's how I KNEW I was female, not.. playing catch.. I just knew. I got dressed up by some local girls when I was a wee young man of 5 or 6. I knew then that was me. Scared the hell out of me. I've been running from her for 3o some odd years. No more.
 
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What was the Army life like while you were in the armed services for you personally as a Transgender person?
 
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Renae said:
To provide a constructive discussion, yes I'm the poster known formally as Mr. Vicchio. I am now Renae. It would be Cassandra Renae but A: That is too long and B: The wife hates the name Cassandra, well the shorter "Cassie". Her sisters name is Cathy and when they were living in Germany that's how many natives pronounced her name.

So, what do you want to know, here's you chance I'm only doing this on this thread and this thread only. That should clear up any misconceptions.
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Why is it that transgender individuals feel compelled to broadcast every stage of their ongoing process? Is it a need for validation you're unable to find within yourself? Is it for the 'shock' factor? I don't understand it. Just as when someone 'comes out', I find it equally tedious. Does anyone really care? I mean it's cool that you're more comfortable in your own skin now and all that, but do you really need feedback? These are your issues after all. Personally, Transgenderism holds all the interest for me as watching paint dry. In all the years you've been here, have you noticed that there have been a great many posters who've claimed to be experiencing the same issues?
 
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Excuse my total ignorance, and I apologise if you find the question offensive, but I really do want to know the answer because I have often wondered.

If you are now a woman, and you and your wife are still together, and you make love, does that make your wife a lesbian because she is now married to a woman? And if she is not a lesbian, why would she make love to a woman?
 
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NoC_T said:
Why is it that transgender individuals feel compelled to broadcast every stage of their ongoing process? Is it a need for validation you're unable to find within yourself? Is it for the 'shock' factor? I don't understand it. Just as when someone 'comes out', I find it equally tedious. Does anyone really care? I mean it's cool that you're more comfortable in your own skin now and all that, but do you really need feedback? These are your issues after all. Personally, Transgenderism holds all the interest for me as watching paint dry. In all the years you've been here, have you noticed that there have been a great many posters who've claimed to be experiencing the same issues?
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Simple solution get out of the thread? Clearly some people do have questions???

Renae said:
To provide a constructive discussion, yes I'm the poster known formally as Mr. Vicchio. I am now Renae. It would be Cassandra Renae but A: That is too long and B: The wife hates the name Cassandra, well the shorter "Cassie". Her sisters name is Cathy and when they were living in Germany that's how many natives pronounced her name.

So, what do you want to know, here's you chance I'm only doing this on this thread and this thread only. That should clear up any misconceptions.
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Was there any inner conflict about you being a woman (especially in your teenage/young adult years)? Did you deny it to yourself at all? Or only to the rest of the world (up until now)? I may have a potential followup depending on the answer to this question.
 
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LadyMoonlight said:
Excuse my total ignorance, and I apologise if you find the question offensive, but I really do want to know the answer because I have often wondered.

If you are now a woman, and you and your wife are still together, and you make love, does that make your wife a lesbian because she is now married to a woman? And if she is not a lesbian, why would she make love to a woman?
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We all have this habit of wanting to put everything in boxes nice and neatlike, with clear labels. If we understand the label, then we understand what is in the box. Unfortunately(or maybe fortunately), real life is not like that. People do not fit in nice neat boxes. We are complex. So really, the only thing that matters is if Renae's wife loves her, and if so, then what other label is quite possibly irrelevant. It is also important to note that orientation is not an activity, it is a preference. Who you sleep with does not determine orientation.

Note: I am not speaking for Renae, and she can possibly answer your question more exactly for her situation, much better than I can. I am just speaking generally. The world is a fascinating place filled with fascinating people, and every time we define some one by a label, we limit them. I would prefer we did not do that.
 
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Nilly said:
Simple solution get out of the thread? Clearly some people do have questions???
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Do you have trouble with reading comprehension?

I asked questions.
 
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NoC_T said:
Do you have trouble with reading comprehension?

I asked questions.
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That you're obviously not interested in answers to. You're quite clearly just trolling.

NoC_T said:
Personally, Transgenderism holds all the interest for me as watching paint dry.
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Nilly said:
That you're obviously not interested in answers to. You're quite clearly just trolling.
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You're quite clearly goading me. Save it for the Basement, Nilly. This isn't permitted upstairs.

That's right, I find it boring. It may be that I find a certain interest in the egotism I believe drives such dialogue. Not the content itself.

You don't like what I'm saying, then ignore me. Why don't you mind your own business? I wasn't addressing you.
 
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Moderator's Warning:
How about I do this before some jerk comes into the thread and tries to wreck it?

Any flaming, attacks, or comments/questions deemed not in the spirit of the OP, will be met with consequences.
 
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Oh, well la-de-dah. And here, I was under the impression this was a discussion.

And what, pray, is the 'spirit' of the OP? That only comments deemed suitably deferential should be forthcoming?
 
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Redress said:
We all have this habit of wanting to put everything in boxes nice and neatlike, with clear labels. If we understand the label, then we understand what is in the box. Unfortunately(or maybe fortunately), real life is not like that. People do not fit in nice neat boxes. We are complex. So really, the only thing that matters is if Renae's wife loves her, and if so, then what other label is quite possibly irrelevant. It is also important to note that orientation is not an activity, it is a preference. Who you sleep with does not determine orientation.

Note: I am not speaking for Renae, and she can possibly answer your question more exactly for her situation, much better than I can. I am just speaking generally. The world is a fascinating place filled with fascinating people, and every time we define some one by a label, we limit them. I would prefer we did not do that.
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"labels" and "boxes" are just descriptions thats like saying you hate words because definitions arent perfect.
 
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CMPancake said:
What was the Army life like while you were in the armed services for you personally as a Transgender person?
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Ehm Navy... :p

It was hard. Part of me felt like a fraud the whole time. I tried as hard as I could. .. but I just couldn't rectify the inner struggle with being in. I was mortified. Towards the end this is part of why I got out. Being trans and active duty don't mix.
 
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NoC_T said:
Why is it that transgender individuals feel compelled to broadcast every stage of their ongoing process? Is it a need for validation you're unable to find within yourself? Is it for the 'shock' factor? I don't understand it. Just as when someone 'comes out', I find it equally tedious. Does anyone really care? I mean it's cool that you're more comfortable in your own skin now and all that, but do you really need feedback? These are your issues after all. Personally, Transgenderism holds all the interest for me as watching paint dry. In all the years you've been here, have you noticed that there have been a great many posters who've claimed to be experiencing the same issues?
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I'm not. I did this for those who had questions. One time. I don't need ya'lls validation. I was hesitant to even start this thread.
 
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LadyMoonlight said:
Excuse my total ignorance, and I apologise if you find the question offensive, but I really do want to know the answer because I have often wondered.

If you are now a woman, and you and your wife are still together, and you make love, does that make your wife a lesbian because she is now married to a woman? And if she is not a lesbian, why would she make love to a woman?
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I am still preop and not out as a woman. She isn't inclined towards lesbian but she loves me and we're going to work together to make this happen. but yes once Im living as a woman, and more so after that trip to Trinidad.... yeah that's going to be our reality.
 
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Nilly said:
Simple solution get out of the thread? Clearly some people do have questions???



Was there any inner conflict about you being a woman (especially in your teenage/young adult years)? Did you deny it to yourself at all? Or only to the rest of the world (up until now)? I may have a potential followup depending on the answer to this question.
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Oh hell yes. The first time I dressed up, I was scared. I loved it. It felt soooo right, but I knew my father would disown me. I knew I'd be attacked, mocked. I felt scared and alone. I thought I was a freak. But I could not help it. I loved putting on make up, prancing in front of the mirror. I think I was 14, we had been watching the news together and some story was on about a small trans community, Dad got really irritated by it. My sister had asked "men can be women? " and dad said "no they are its, freaks. " I voted to fight this then and there. I got into spurts I went hard core jock life. But I felt even worse. I was most affected when during a foitball game the offense was out there (DE was my position) and I'd find myself envious of the cheerleaders.
 
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Crovax said:
"labels" and "boxes" are just descriptions thats like saying you hate words because definitions arent perfect.
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My wife hates the gender binary construct of society too.
 
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Renae said:
To provide a constructive discussion, yes I'm the poster known formally as Mr. Vicchio. I am now Renae. It would be Cassandra Renae but A: That is too long and B: The wife hates the name Cassandra, well the shorter "Cassie". Her sisters name is Cathy and when they were living in Germany that's how many natives pronounced her name.

So, what do you want to know, here's you chance I'm only doing this on this thread and this thread only. That should clear up any misconceptions.
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Interesting.

Forgive me if anything I ask is insulting it isn't ment to be.

So you are transgender, does that mean you are a female trapped in a male's body? Or is that just a rudimentary way off describing it? If so can you better describe it.
 
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Renae said:
To provide a constructive discussion, yes I'm the poster known formally as Mr. Vicchio. I am now Renae. It would be Cassandra Renae but A: That is too long and B: The wife hates the name Cassandra, well the shorter "Cassie". Her sisters name is Cathy and when they were living in Germany that's how many natives pronounced her name.

So, what do you want to know, here's you chance I'm only doing this on this thread and this thread only. That should clear up any misconceptions.
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Do you believe Gender is a Social Construct or Biological? Or what?
 
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CLAX1911 said:
Interesting.

Forgive me if anything I ask is insulting it isn't ment to be.

So you are transgender, does that mean you are a female trapped in a male's body? Or is that just a rudimentary way off describing it? If so can you better describe it.
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It is an easy analogy. Rather I feel my body is not right for who I am. I prefer that explaination.
 
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RGacky3 said:
Do you believe Gender is a Social Construct or Biological? Or what?
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I belueve traditional "make/female" roles, in some ways very valid roles but none the less are societal constructs.
 
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Renae said:
Oh hell yes. The first time I dressed up, I was scared. I loved it. It felt soooo right, but I knew my father would disown me. I knew I'd be attacked, mocked. I felt scared and alone. I thought I was a freak. But I could not help it. I loved putting on make up, prancing in front of the mirror. I think I was 14, we had been watching the news together and some story was on about a small trans community, Dad got really irritated by it. My sister had asked "men can be women? " and dad said "no they are its, freaks. " I voted to fight this then and there. I got into spurts I went hard core jock life. But I felt even worse. I was most affected when during a foitball game the offense was out there (DE was my position) and I'd find myself envious of the cheerleaders.
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that certainly happened on this site, by me and others - especially in that place which cannot be mentioned

which causes me to ask, did your participation on debatepolitics either facilitate or undermine your inclination to disclose this personal revelation?
 
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