SmokeAndMirrors
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The issue at hand isn't being rejected. It's coming up with an approach that doesn't come off like a complete farce to begin with.
You wouldn't go into a job interview wearing a T-shirt, without having bathed in three days, and start off with a line like "Sup dude! How's it hanging!" If you would, you'd frankly be better off just staying at home.
It is the same principle here.
Yes. Obviously, my first order of business is getting her number, and preferably her Facebook, so that we can communicate.
Again, my only really concerned is keeping things somewhat timely. New Years is already a week away, and the stand might not even be here past Christmas.
There is something of a limited window at play here.
What's farce-y about "I'd like to talk to you more. Can I get your number"? I don't get it.
This isn't a job interview, Gathomas. This is a human being. Human beings want to be with human beings. Being simple and sincere and saying you want to spend time with her is human. It is not trashy or disshelved. It's basic humanity.
So yes, the issue is rejection. You're afraid your normal human self isn't enough to impress another human.
Either you're wrong, she's shallow, or you need to do some soul searching. If you want non-shallow relationships, you need to appeal to non-shallow people. If you want to be in any relationship, you need to feel you are a good enough person that someone will want to spend time with you, or you have to be willing to work towards that end.
If there's a time limit, get her number now and do ANYTHING that isn't a drunken New Year's party where she'll feel obligated to let you get physical with her. That will come off as either intimidating, or just looking for sex.
Offer only you, to only her.