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    How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daughters

    My dad didn't. I saw this article in my newsfeed this morning on FB and thought that it's a great attitude that this dad has. My favorite quote from the article:

    I’m not the guard who locks you in the tower. Ideally, I am my daughter’s safe space, a garden to return to when the world has proved a little too cruel, a place where she can recuperate and reflect upon past mistakes and know that here, there is someone who loves her wholeheartedly and will hug her until the tears dry.

    That’s what I want for you, sweetie. A bold life filled with big mistakes and bigger triumphs.
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    Re: How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daugh

    My dad wasn't much of a talker, but more the strong silent type. I knew I could always depend on him to be there for me in times of need, but his presence was that of quiet assurance that everything would be okay.
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    Re: How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daugh

    That was a good article. The creepy "I own my daughters sexuality" crap really needs to go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rathi View Post
    That was a good article. The creepy "I own my daughters sexuality" crap really needs to go.
    I agree. I think it's more important for dads to empower their daughters with information to make good decisions. They need to learn how to be independent and make decisions and their own mistakes. I have a similar philosophy with my teen daughters. It seems to have worked so far, we have very open, honest communication about sex and relationships.
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    Re: How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daugh

    Quote Originally Posted by SassySmartie View Post
    I agree. I think it's more important for dads to empower their daughters with information to make good decisions. They need to learn how to be independent and make decisions and their own mistakes. I have a similar philosophy with my teen daughters. It seems to have worked so far, we have very open, honest communication about sex and relationships.
    That's the kind of father I tried to be.
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    Good grief, we're talking about teenagers here. Technically speaking that's 13 up. They're not going to expire or be ruined if they don't have sex until they're adults. It's not a glass cage. In fact, at least in my daughter's generation (she's near 40 now), she and a lot of her friends used their father's evil eye at the boys as a shield. This fellows daughter has no such shield - it's all on her shoulders and we know what tremendous pressure kids feel at that age over just about everything. She's been thrown to the wolves with the promise that he'll be there to bandage the wounds, but refuses to be there to fight off the wolves in the first place. Yeah, that'll make a teenage girl feel protected, safe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by clownboy View Post
    Good grief, we're talking about teenagers here. Technically speaking that's 13 up. They're not going to expire or be ruined if they don't have sex until they're adults. It's not a glass cage. In fact, at least in my daughter's generation (she's near 40 now), she and a lot of her friends used their father's evil eye at the boys as a shield. .
    Haha- the bolded made me chuckle just a little. When I was a teenager, I had a "boyfriend" for awhile that was scared to death of my dad, after meeting him at the front door when he came to pick me up the first time. Little did he know that my dad was just a big lovable teddy bear who wouldn't hurt a fly.
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    Re: How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daugh

    I had to, im a single dad with full custody

    i found it to be easy since i was a single dad with full custody since she was young

    already talking about wiping and hygiene, periods, bras etc etc just kinda leads up to it

    weird yes a little lol but it had to be done
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    Re: How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daugh

    Quote Originally Posted by clownboy View Post
    Good grief, we're talking about teenagers here. Technically speaking that's 13 up. They're not going to expire or be ruined if they don't have sex until they're adults. It's not a glass cage. In fact, at least in my daughter's generation (she's near 40 now), she and a lot of her friends used their father's evil eye at the boys as a shield. This fellows daughter has no such shield - it's all on her shoulders and we know what tremendous pressure kids feel at that age over just about everything. She's been thrown to the wolves with the promise that he'll be there to bandage the wounds, but refuses to be there to fight off the wolves in the first place. Yeah, that'll make a teenage girl feel protected, safe.
    no. it's her choice
    she came to me looking for advice
    she had taken the virginity pledge in high school; it was all the rage at the time
    but by her asking i knew she was looking for a way to break her vow. one she had taken when she had not reached an age to decide. now she had reached that age
    and i let her know that only she knew when the time was right

    but what a double standard
    i gave my son condoms
    we had the talk
    and we talked about how to please a woman, and the benefits of doing so
    and how 'no' means 'no'
    a very different message to him when compared to my daughter. there was no way we could - correction, i could - have a similar discussion with her
    one of the benefits of having a wonderful wife, to cover what i could not
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    Re: How do dads talk to daughters about the birds and the bees? Do they talk to daugh

    Quote Originally Posted by clownboy View Post
    Good grief, we're talking about teenagers here. Technically speaking that's 13 up. They're not going to expire or be ruined if they don't have sex until they're adults. It's not a glass cage. In fact, at least in my daughter's generation (she's near 40 now), she and a lot of her friends used their father's evil eye at the boys as a shield. This fellows daughter has no such shield - it's all on her shoulders and we know what tremendous pressure kids feel at that age over just about everything. She's been thrown to the wolves with the promise that he'll be there to bandage the wounds, but refuses to be there to fight off the wolves in the first place. Yeah, that'll make a teenage girl feel protected, safe.
    I think you're sort of missing the point. He's not saying that he isn't at all protective, but that he is putting her in charge of her own body and her own sexuality. He's pointing out how teaching a girl she isn't capable of making choices about her own body, and putting man in charge of that affects her down the road, where she may let other men make that decision for her. I think he makes valid points.
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