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Could you fall for a transgender?

Amadeus

Amadeus

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If their outward appearance was sufficient, and they had all the 'gear', could you fall for a transgender? Assume that the surgery is 100% successful.

I've thought about it, and I think I could, under the right circumstances.
 
No. There are too many potential underlying mental issues there.
 
Fisher said:
No. There are too many potential underlying mental issues there.
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Perhaps, but there are transgenders who are perfectly normal (in the context of their situation).
 
No, that would bother me too much. I enjoy my women very feminine, and even the thought of that would drive me crazy.
 
Amadeus said:
Perhaps, but there are transgenders who are perfectly normal (in the context of their situation).
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But how would you know when those scars are going to create chaos? I have heard that a significant number of post op transgender people end up wanting to or actually reverting to their original gender. Besides all that, I wanted kids, so I wouldn't have dated someone if I had known for certain that they were infertile. If my wife had ended up not being able to have kids, that is one thing, but if I had known from early on it would have been an impossibility, our relationship would not have continued or even started. Horrible, but true.
 
Fisher said:
But how would you know when those scars are going to create chaos? I have heard that a significant number of post op transgender people end up wanting to or actually reverting to their original gender. Besides all that, I wanted kids, so I wouldn't have dated someone if I had known for certain that they were infertile. If my wife had ended up not being able to have kids, that is one thing, but if I had known from early on it would have been an impossibility, our relationship would not have continued or even started. Horrible, but true.
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It certainly does depend on what you want out of a relationship. I don't think that a transgender parter would be ideal for everyone, even in the most ideal of situations. But you have to admit...

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...some people are born to be female.
 
No, that is not likely.
 
I don't think the OP question is exactly on point. I don't think it is whether a person could fall for a transgendered person "who had all the right parts." A person wouldn't even know unless told. The question should be would you be willing to have a relationship with a transgendered person the same as if that person was not transgendered, ie would a person being transgendered then veto continuing a relationship the same as if the person not transgendered.

To be honest of it, I wouldn't. The reason is just some in-the-gut feeling I have about it. I don't think a person ever need justify their romantic attractions provided they are not harmful.
 
joko104 said:
The question should be would you be willing to have a relationship with a transgendered person the same as if that person was not transgendered, ie would a person being transgendered then veto continuing a relationship the same as if the person not transgendered.
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That is not my question, however. I am not proposing that a dishonesty takes place, then when revealed a choice is made. That would require forgiveness and attraction, and I think the situation is perilous enough as it is.
 
Amadeus said:
If their outward appearance was sufficient, and they had all the 'gear', could you fall for a transgender? Assume that the surgery is 100% successful.

I've thought about it, and I think I could, under the right circumstances.
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There is no such thing as truly successful surgery of he type you posit. Leaving aside those unfortunates born with ambiguous physical sex characteristics, there really is no such thing as a "transgender" body type. The procedure though does a great deal to make certain surgeons quite wealthy.

What you get is a mutilated male made to look like a female, but unable to bear young, or a mutilated female unable to father them. Remember that amazingly ugly bearded woman who was supposed to have been made a "man" by surgery and drugs but then got pregnant? Well, that should tell anyone with a single firing neuron, that nobody had changed this disturbed person's sex, they had merely maimed her.

Look at it another way, if you sew goose wings on your poodle, that doesn't make it a bird.
 
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Amadeus said:
If their outward appearance was sufficient, and they had all the 'gear', could you fall for a transgender? Assume that the surgery is 100% successful.

I've thought about it, and I think I could, under the right circumstances.
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No.........
 
l dont think so

but love is surprising
 
Oftencold said:
There is no such thing as truly successful surgery of he type you posit.
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Why do conservatives keep trying to change the stipulations of my posts? I get that you are ideologically opposed. So be it.
 
Amadeus said:
Why do conservatives keep trying to change the stipulations of my posts? I get that you are ideologically opposed. So be it.
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I just assumed that you'd want such a glaring departure from Reality brought to your attention.

And ideology isn't he problem. I'm big on ideology, but in this case the confusion is caused by a lack of differentiation between incorrect and fanciful ideas, and cold, brutal facts.
 
Amadeus said:
If their outward appearance was sufficient, and they had all the 'gear', could you fall for a transgender? Assume that the surgery is 100% successful.

I've thought about it, and I think I could, under the right circumstances.
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If I didn't know the difference, I wouldn't know the difference. If I can't tell, why would I care?
 
No. Personally, I don't view a m2f trans person as female. Even if they look female they are still a man and I wouldn't date them.
 
Amadeus said:
It certainly does depend on what you want out of a relationship. I don't think that a transgender parter would be ideal for everyone, even in the most ideal of situations. But you have to admit...

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...some people are born to be female.
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I'd definitely take this over an ugly "real" chick any day of the week.
 
digsbe said:
No. Personally, I don't view a m2f trans person as female. Even if they look female they are still a man and I wouldn't date them.
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You'd really kick this out of bed??
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calamity said:
You'd really kick this out of bed??
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I would kick anyone out of the bed until we get married. I'm not going to sleep with just anyone, especially solely on the basis that they are attractive.

It doesn't matter how successful the surgery may have been, I'm not comfortable having sex with or marrying a m2f transsexual and I do not recognize that person as female.
 
No. I could never dissociate the knowledge of origins with my personal preferences and expectations. Nor would I stoop to hypocrisy, in demanding that transgender individuals compromise themselves thus.

Having said this, I would see no reason that platonic friendship should be precluded.
 
JackFrost said:
As long as there are women, I could never fall for a transgender.

If there was some condition that made all women look like Rosie O'Donnell's or Janet Reno's, then yes.
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If my choices were to be that, Reno, or O'donnell, then my name would be Father Jimbo
 
If it looks like a girl, smells like a girl and tastes like a girl, then by golly, who am I to say it's not a girl?
 
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