Thread: How many?

Originally Posted by Mathematician

I think this is the first time we've disagreed, but this one is a big deal to me. I'll come out and admit that my mother was nearly suicidal when she found out her partner had been cheating for 9 years with various women and hiding it. If I wasn't a man who thought about consequences before every action then some harm would have been done to him. I look down on those who can't stay faithful during their marriage as a bunch low-life pieces of ****. If you want to go screw someone else then get a divorce.

would not the spouse who was cheated on be the one to decide whether a divorce was in order
they would either accept the cheating or not
why foreclose on the possibility that they would tolerate the cheating in order to preserve the marriage

Originally Posted by justabubba

would not the spouse who was cheated on be the one to decide whether a divorce was in orderthey would either accept the cheating or notwhy foreclose on the possibility that they would tolerate the cheating in order to preserve the marriage

First, I don't think anyone should tolerate it. Second, how are they supposed to make that decision if their partner is doing it behind their back? I certainly don't believe that being able to hide it means no harm was done.

Originally Posted by Mathematician

First, I don't think anyone should tolerate it. Second, how are they supposed to make that decision if their partner is doing it behind their back? I certainly don't believe that being able to hide it means no harm was done.

Yeah, harm is done regardless if the spouse knows are not. Cheating is ugly for everyone.

I don't even understand why someone would put the energy and effort into cheating. Tell your spouse you're done and go screw who you want. No lies, no games, no diseases to pass on *shudder*

It seems with cheating there would be a lot of work that had nothing to do with screwing. I just don't see the payoff.

Originally Posted by missypea

Yeah, harm is done regardless if the spouse knows are not. Cheating is ugly for everyone.

I don't even understand why someone would put the energy and effort into cheating. Tell your spouse you're done and go screw who you want. No lies, no games, no diseases to pass on *shudder*

It seems with cheating there would be a lot of work that had nothing to do with screwing. I just don't see the payoff.

Yeah, I don't either. Even in my younger days with casual GF's and I would be out and playing around, afterword, ugh, who saw me, make up an alibi, will she find out, what lies do I tell.... Way too much effort. But the why for the ones who do so are because of psych issues. For some it is like a gambling addiction. If you get caught you are done and that is the rush. For some others, it is an obsession with acceptance, and for some its just a total lack of being able to care enough for another person to outweigh the thrill of the chase.

I've never had sex in any sense of the word. I'm waiting until I'm married. I am the 1%

Originally Posted by digsbe

I've never had sex in any sense of the word. I'm waiting until I'm married. I am the 1%

Better be careful. When you're in the 1% club, everyone wants to screw you.

Originally Posted by tessaesque

Are we talking full on genital-to-genital penetration or are we supposed to include oral sex and the like?

oral sex is not sex, ask Bill Clinton..

I don't know how many partners I have had. I ran out of fingers and toes.

Originally Posted by lizzie

Better be careful. When you're in the 1% club, everyone wants to screw you.

Ain't that the truth. Don't know if it's the same for boys as it is for girls but......yeah.

I've only had sex with one girl, but oh it was the best summer ever.