Thread: Sex by penny-counting?

There used to be an old saying that when a couple married, the first year they should put a penny in a jar everytime they have sex. Afterwards, they should take out a penny everytime they have sex. The jar will become empty about the time one of them dies of old age.

For those of you of long term relationships or marriage, do you see the frequency of having sex with your partner/spouse notably declining?

Originally Posted by joko104

There used to be an old saying that when a couple married, the first year they should put a penny in a jar everytime they have sex. Afterwards, they should take out a penny everytime they have sex. The jar will become empty about the time one of them dies of old age.

For those of you of long term relationships or marriage, do you see the frequency of having sex with your partner/spouse notably declining?

Dude, I noticed that about Month 12 of marriage.

Then came Month 24, which made Month 12 look like a series of orgies.

If it had lasted more than 3.5 years, we might have ended up having what an older friend of mine called "hall sex".... your most intimate second of the day is when you pass each other in the hall and say "**** you".

Originally Posted by Goshin

Dude, I noticed that about Month 12 of marriage.

Then came Month 24, which made Month 12 look like a series of orgies.

If it had lasted more than 3.5 years, we might have ended up having what an older friend of mine called "hall sex".... your most intimate second of the day is when you pass each other in the hall and say "**** you".

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I have been with my wife 5 years. When we first got together it was about three times a day. Now it is about three times a week and has probably been that way for a few years. Seeing as how we have two little kids that zap a lot of our time and energy I think we are doing pretty good at three times a week. If it declines any more in the future it will likely be due to just aging rather than overfamiliarity. The number isn’t important. What is important is that both partners are satisfied with the quantity and quality.

When we hit 50 it seemed to slow down, things change, considering all we did in our salad years we just appreciate still being above ground and together.

Originally Posted by Sarcogito

I have been with my wife 5 years. When we first got together it was about three times a day. Now it is about three times a week and has probably been that way for a few years. Seeing as how we have two little kids that zap a lot of our time and energy I think we are doing pretty good at three times a week. If it declines any more in the future it will likely be due to just aging rather than overfamiliarity. The number isn’t important. What is important is that both partners are satisfied with the quantity and quality.

You're right ...Every couple is different.. Some.. after 25 years of marriage are still having sex 3-4 times a week.

I think my husband and I have a little more sex now than when we got married 5 years ago. We also didn't really have a bed (slept on an air mattress on the floor), were living in a really small apartment with my sister in the next room, and I got pregnant about a month after the wedding. Plus, I really didn't have much of a sex drive in my twenties.

Now, we are living in a house, with a master bedroom and a queen size bed, our sons have their own room along with our live in nanny (my brother), and I'm not pregnant. Plus, my sex drive seems to have increased, comparatively, since I reached 30.

My wife and I have been married 3.5 years, and in the last year, we've been trying to have a baby, so the frequency of sex has gone way up. Before that, I hadn't noticed a significant decline in our sex life.

Getting married in just over a month, so I will have to report back on the marriage aspect of it in a year or two. So far though, after 3 years of a relationship there has been no decline. Actually an increase if you consider that for almost all of the 1st year we were not living together lol. My future wife is a sexual being, as is pretty much her entire family. I have always enjoyed it immensely as well. I guess not all do, although I personally have never understood those who don't think sex is simply and purely the cats ass.

If one likes to do something A LOT, they will try to do that something a lot. I do believe though that frequency itself is not THE most important aspect of a healthy sex life, but it does rank up there. It is no secret that as people get older, their sex drive does diminish. How much does it truly diminish though? If a guy who is 20 can have sex several times a day, and women can have it that often for just about their entire lives, if the ability diminishes to a 3rd of what it used to be, that still leaves the ability to have it about daily, and the desire to have it would depend on other factors besides physical ability.

It has been my belief now for several years that people mentally make themselves age quicker than what their body really does, or would. The adage, you are only as old as you feel is one of the most accurate of them all. I know some people who are well into their 60's and are incredibly fit and active. Impressive to the point that they are still more fit and more active than a majority of people have ever been. I know others who are about my age, some even a bit younger (I'm 47) who are already bemoaning the effects of getting old.

I would be lying if I said I could do everything today as I could when I was 20, but I am not that far off. I am not just talking about sex, but that does apply as well. My fiance is the same way, which is part of what makes us so compatible. you only get one shot at life so why waste it getting old. I always tell people that I can't stop getting older, but I will never get old. That applies sexually as well.