Thread: Quiet love-making?

Originally Posted by Daktoria

...If your girl is making you work to achieve orgasm, I'd be very worried about the future of your relationship (unless you enjoy being used).

some women require more effort to achieve an orgasm than others. that doesn't make it "work".

I enjoy doing it.

Originally Posted by Daktoria

Sounds like you're a tool....

...Anyway, I don't understand how men enjoy sex when it's treated like a job. F*cking stupid isn't f*cking fun.

as this is a civil discussion, I appreciat you stop this kind of language.

Well, if she disclaimed to you that just because she isn't making noise doesn't mean she isn't having fun, chances are she's had guys fret over this before. As such, it is almost certainly not you or anything you're doing. If you're familiar enough with the female orgasm that you know she isn't faking, don't worry.

It is possible that she came into sexual maturity thinking she was supposed to be quiet and it became a habit that she either can't, or sees no reason to break. It's also possible that's just how she is.

And from a woman's perspective, lemme tell ya something: I'd say a pretty large minority of men are nearly silent, right up until they're close to orgasm. So, I know how you feel. I felt like it was sort of weird and left me a bit in the dark in the early years of my sex life, too. And I'm not gunna lie, I appreciate a vocal man. But, it's just how some people are, or perhaps how they have trained themselves to be.

Focus on the finer details of her signs of arousal. Maybe you'll pick up some new ideas. I had a boyfriend who could do what Vik describes. In addition to that he could tell me what day I was going to ovulate or menstruate based on how I smelled (no, he didn't just memorize my cycle because that's impossible - mine's a bit irregular). It was spooky and cool at the same time, but definitely displayed that he had a very finely tuned awareness of my body.

Originally Posted by Thunder

as this is a civil discussion, I appreciat you stop this kind of language.

With this thread, you remind me of the green car form the first Cars movie....."who wants some thunder!?! ka-chinga, ka-chinga"

Originally Posted by SmokeAndMirrors

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And from a woman's perspective, lemme tell ya something: I'd say a pretty large minority of men are nearly silent, right up until they're close to orgasm. So, I know how you feel. I felt like it was sort of weird and left me a bit in the dark in the early years of my sex life, too. And I'm not gunna lie, I appreciate a vocal man. But, it's just how some people are, or perhaps how they have trained themselves to be.

Focus on the finer details of her signs of arousal. Maybe you'll pick up some new ideas. I had a boyfriend who could do what Vik describes. In addition to that he could tell me what day I was going to ovulate or menstruate based on how I smelled (no, he didn't just memorize my cycle because that's impossible - mine's a bit irregular). It was spooky and cool at the same time, but definitely displayed that he had a very finely tuned awareness of my body.

yeah, like how my upstairs neighbors, I never hear the guy....just the girl.

I guess some folks are just quiet that way.

Originally Posted by Thunder

some women require more effort to achieve an orgasm than others. that doesn't make it "work".

I enjoy doing it.

Are you submissive?

The only way I know women can get vocal with a sub is if you let them totally take control like Thrilla suggested with commands.

What Spike said is true too. If a woman's not able to breathe smoothly, she's not going to make any sound.

I guess it's possible for you to be dominant in playing your girl like an instrument, but that doesn't seem like a very intimate bond.

You might want to try playing some music to help her avoid being self-conscious as well. Some women only "speak up" when they don't feel like they're standing out and causing a ruckus.

Originally Posted by SmokeAndMirrors

And from a woman's perspective, lemme tell ya something: I'd say a pretty large minority of men are nearly silent, right up until they're close to orgasm. So, I know how you feel. I felt like it was sort of weird and left me a bit in the dark in the early years of my sex life, too. And I'm not gunna lie, I appreciate a vocal man. But, it's just how some people are, or perhaps how they have trained themselves to be.

I agree with everything but the end. We don't condition ourselves to be that way. It's a matter of society demanding us to be self-conscious. We're embarrassed and afraid of making the woman awkward.

There's also the fact that when we come out from silence, we don't know how without being crude. It's kind of like dancing. A lot of guys don't know how to express themselves passionately.

If she's not naturally noisy - no amount of coaxing to boost your ego is going to be beneficial.

Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker

If she's not naturally noisy - no amount of coaxing to boost your ego is going to be beneficial.

its not about ego.

its about knowing that I am making her feel good.

I should also say that she is very good at teaching me how to do things to her in a way that pleases her, and she acknowledges when I do things better.

she may just be, as she suggested months ago, a quiet lover.

Originally Posted by Thunder

its not about ego.

its about knowing that I am making her feel good.

I should also say that she is very good at teaching me how to do things to her in a way that pleases her, and she acknowledges when I do things better.

she may just be, as she suggested months ago, a quiet lover.

Indeed so - if you know you please her, and she tells you and shows you things, why do you need extra noise?

Turn on some music - have fun . . . who was it that said 'when you come face to face with a willing pussy . . . ' MMHMM - take that advice, baby . . . your concern over it might ruin your sex life.