Thread: Quiet love-making?

Originally Posted by Thunder

OK, so as some of you know, the folks who live above me make a lot of loud sex.

The chick loves it. She makes very healthy sounds, like the guy really knows what he's doing.

I've had women makes these sounds too. The "oh Gods", the "oh ****s!!", etc etc.

however, the girl I'm having sex with these days, does not make such exciting noises.

she opens her mouth when we do it, and sometiems closes her eyes, but she doesn't moan and groan.

now, when we first started having sex, she did indeed tell me "just cause I don't make noises doesn't mean Im not enjoying it".

so if she is enjoying it, why wouldnt she make noises?

I mean, even when I make her cum, she doesn't make noises.

the most noises she makes is a slight "MMMmmmmmmm"

I need noises!!! should I ask her to fake it?

I actually understand your dilemma, it's more arousing and enjoyable to have affirmations of your partner's enjoyment and enthusiasm, on the other hand, faking takes concentration, which for some women, distracts her from being able to orgasm for real. I say you guys should take turn, make her orgasm in her own way first, and then she can fake it for you afterward. Just be tactful in how you approach the topic.

I can taste arousal on a woman's breath. I don't need her to scream... and too much loud noise makes me self-conscious.

Originally Posted by Viktyr Korimir

I can taste arousal on a woman's breath. I don't need her to scream... and too much loud noise makes me self-conscious.

Good for you, some of us like verbal assurances. I think it's up to him to arrange his relationship in a way that serves both his and his partner's physical and emotional needs best.

I just heard a story on the radio a bit ago about how most women make noise in bed unrelated to their own pleasure.

Here it is

Maybe yours is just one of the honest ones.

Originally Posted by Thunder

I enjoy making women feel good. Noises affirm that I have made them feel good.

if they don't make noises, I feel like I could have done better.

that's part of my point.

Sounds like you're a tool.

If you want her to make noise, you have to take command and smash her senses so hard that she can't control herself. This doesn't mean to be brutal, but it does mean to crank up the intensity. It takes strength and smoothness to hit the sweet spot.

People express ourselves emotionally when we desire release. In order for her to release, she needs something to release.

You might want to grunt yourself as well. That way, she knows it's OK instead of being self-conscious.

I agree that she's enjoying herself though (or at least that you should believe her). You shouldn't feel impotent. It's her choice.

Anyway, I don't understand how men enjoy sex when it's treated like a job. F*cking stupid isn't f*cking fun.

Originally Posted by Thunder

OK, so as some of you know, the folks who live above me make a lot of loud sex.

The chick loves it. She makes very healthy sounds, like the guy really knows what he's doing.

I've had women makes these sounds too. The "oh Gods", the "oh ****s!!", etc etc.

however, the girl I'm having sex with these days, does not make such exciting noises.

she opens her mouth when we do it, and sometiems closes her eyes, but she doesn't moan and groan.

now, when we first started having sex, she did indeed tell me "just cause I don't make noises doesn't mean Im not enjoying it".

so if she is enjoying it, why wouldnt she make noises?

I mean, even when I make her cum, she doesn't make noises.

the most noises she makes is a slight "MMMmmmmmmm"

I need noises!!! should I ask her to fake it?

Dude, there's all kinds of lovemaking, and different people enjoy different kinds, and in different ways.

If that's the way she enjoys her lovemaking DON'T try to change that. If she didn't enjoy the way you and her made love, she most likely wouldn't be doing it with you. So it is incredibly likely that she thoroughly enjoys the lovemaking you have with her.

So, really, I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. Enjoy her as she is if you really love her.

Because if you don't enjoy her as she is then you're going to try to change her. And that's incredibly not fair to her. And, more likely than not, be a turn off for her.

Nothing is wrong, and when you try to fix something that isn't broke it usually ends up breaking it.

So either dump her because she's not a screamer or buck up and get some self-confidence and let the matter go.

Originally Posted by Thunder

yes I know

See? This is exactly what I'm talking about. You're behaving like you're whipped.

You need to stop being so domesticated and start being more of a leader. Sex isn't a mission. It's an experience.

If your girl is making you work to achieve orgasm, I'd be very worried about the future of your relationship (unless you enjoy being used).

Originally Posted by Thunder

OK, so as some of you know, the folks who live above me make a lot of loud sex.

The chick loves it. She makes very healthy sounds, like the guy really knows what he's doing.

I've had women makes these sounds too. The "oh Gods", the "oh ****s!!", etc etc.

however, the girl I'm having sex with these days, does not make such exciting noises.

she opens her mouth when we do it, and sometiems closes her eyes, but she doesn't moan and groan.

now, when we first started having sex, she did indeed tell me "just cause I don't make noises doesn't mean Im not enjoying it".

so if she is enjoying it, why wouldnt she make noises?

I mean, even when I make her cum, she doesn't make noises.

the most noises she makes is a slight "MMMmmmmmmm"

I need noises!!! should I ask her to fake it?

You're not doing it right.

You know - I'll feed in some science (but keep in mind not all woman are the same)

For some women orgasming and getting 'into it' doesn't engage the vocal cords constantly - or the diaphragm. it contracts the diaphragm = less breathing, less noise especially during orgasm. . .she could be one of these women.

I've actually heard that this is suppose to be the norm - and, as we all know of erotix esphyxiation - this is suppose to heighten things. It's also a part of tantric sex.

And just as they are about to climax…Everything stops. They tense their entire body up from head to toe and STOP BREATHING …

Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing :: Women Awakened

nothing wrong with quiet sex... nothing wrong with loud sex.

most parents become acquainted with quiet sex real quick after they have kids.

every now and then, we like to have quiet sex... purposeful quiet sex.... no verbal cues whatsoever.
it's tough... and it's fun.... it forces you to be aware of your partners body, and the more aware of your partners body you are, the better lover you will be.

Thunder, try this and see if it work out for you...
take command one night... come up behind her and gently cover her mouth with your hand and whisper in her her ear something very erotic .. and command her to not make a sound... tell her how you are going to take her and tell her all the things you are going to do to here.. in detail... but make sure you keep telling her to remain quiet.... then do all the thing you know she likes... just, take her.
putting the condition of silence on her will put her into her comfort zone... but it also carries the insinuation that being silent is not part of the usual course of action.. it's "something different"
put that sort of thing in your repertoire.... and also....
play a game where you don't do anything to here unless she commands you to ... and don't do anything she doesn't explicitly tell you to do.
every now and then, stop what you are doing ..even if you know she is enjoying it... and wait for the next command.
this will help her become a bit more vocal, and it will give you better insight into what she likes.

pretty soon, i think you'll find that you sex life with her will be enriched and far more comfortable and fulfilling for each of you.


don't ever ask her if she is enjoying the sex you have.... that will tend to make her self conscious and insecure .. she might feel she is doing something wrong... and that might cause her to find your sessions less enjoyable...... there's no good reason to add stress like that into sex.

anyways, good luck.... it's worth the effort.