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Me and the wife just had a blow out over finances. Not saying we never fight, cuz we do, but this was different. This one was bad. I broke a chair from slamming it on the floor, and she started pulling her hair...like, actually pulling her hair out. I've had a few to drink, else I likely would not be sharing this.
So here's the deal. After my bonus, we had 8 grand in the checking account. I spent a good chunk of this here and there...650 for wood, paint, concrete, etc, for a new, larger, better front porch, which I built. Another 200 for more concrete and wood to make repairs and replace sections of our privacy fence. 70 bucks for a new alignment on the vette. 200 for pool supplies, for out new pool in the back yard. All in, I spent less than 3 grand on project sorta stuff. Now, we make more per month, than our monthly bills, though not by a lot, due to us buying her a new car. In short, despite my new promotion last year, and increased pay, money is still tight. And I have lived that way. Aside from projects (that we both approve), I spend NO money on myself. I buy 3 things. Groceries, gas, and beer. And for the beer, we're talking less than 8 bucks per week, average. I drink something nice every couple weeks or so. Which she guilt trips me over, and I take it, because it IS an excise good. It's a splurge.
She is in charge of our bills and such. Pretty much, I never look at our account. I go to work, I earn money, I come home, I go to bed, I get up, I do it again. Repeat. Except, I DID look at my account today, because I got an offer on my corvette, and I wanted to see what disposable income I had to play with for a new car.
And the number was......1,600. So, from March, till now, we went down by just under 7 grand, 3 grand of which is accounted for, and we have something to show for it (pool, deck, fence, etc). The other 4 grand? Gone, like a puff of smoke. And in addition, our one and only credit card has a balance of 1,500 on it, which got me peeved. So we both yelled, I sat down, went through our account online for the last year, line by line, and lo and behold, Dunkin Donuts, McDonalds, 20 dollar withdraws here and there, etc etc etc. Some of it was legit, yes. Kids needed some new clothes, as did I. But 4 thousand dollars, gone, and with nothing to show for it, and a completely clueless attitude towards our outstanding credit card debt. I was FURIOUS. I still am. I can't calm down.
This was never a problem before. I don't understand it. I can't figure it out. I have gotten from her her passwords to our online account, and all other info, and have taken over the bills. I have half a mind to take away her debit card, and credit card. Am I over bearing? I just can't believe this, and I still have no explanation as to why all of a sudden this has happened? I just don't understand...Help?
So here's the deal. After my bonus, we had 8 grand in the checking account. I spent a good chunk of this here and there...650 for wood, paint, concrete, etc, for a new, larger, better front porch, which I built. Another 200 for more concrete and wood to make repairs and replace sections of our privacy fence. 70 bucks for a new alignment on the vette. 200 for pool supplies, for out new pool in the back yard. All in, I spent less than 3 grand on project sorta stuff. Now, we make more per month, than our monthly bills, though not by a lot, due to us buying her a new car. In short, despite my new promotion last year, and increased pay, money is still tight. And I have lived that way. Aside from projects (that we both approve), I spend NO money on myself. I buy 3 things. Groceries, gas, and beer. And for the beer, we're talking less than 8 bucks per week, average. I drink something nice every couple weeks or so. Which she guilt trips me over, and I take it, because it IS an excise good. It's a splurge.
She is in charge of our bills and such. Pretty much, I never look at our account. I go to work, I earn money, I come home, I go to bed, I get up, I do it again. Repeat. Except, I DID look at my account today, because I got an offer on my corvette, and I wanted to see what disposable income I had to play with for a new car.
And the number was......1,600. So, from March, till now, we went down by just under 7 grand, 3 grand of which is accounted for, and we have something to show for it (pool, deck, fence, etc). The other 4 grand? Gone, like a puff of smoke. And in addition, our one and only credit card has a balance of 1,500 on it, which got me peeved. So we both yelled, I sat down, went through our account online for the last year, line by line, and lo and behold, Dunkin Donuts, McDonalds, 20 dollar withdraws here and there, etc etc etc. Some of it was legit, yes. Kids needed some new clothes, as did I. But 4 thousand dollars, gone, and with nothing to show for it, and a completely clueless attitude towards our outstanding credit card debt. I was FURIOUS. I still am. I can't calm down.
This was never a problem before. I don't understand it. I can't figure it out. I have gotten from her her passwords to our online account, and all other info, and have taken over the bills. I have half a mind to take away her debit card, and credit card. Am I over bearing? I just can't believe this, and I still have no explanation as to why all of a sudden this has happened? I just don't understand...Help?