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opendebate

opendebate

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I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
 
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I know this is weird but I am honestly heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble and smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She was always grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be there best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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It sounds like you had a great mom, and you have my sympathy for your loss.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble and smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She was always grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be there best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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OMG Open, I am so so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I also lost my Mom so I know your pain, and it's real, and it will take time to get heal. Grieve, cry, hold on to your memories, and each day will get better. Your Mom sounds like she was a wonderful lady.

Look to the Heavens tonight, and when you see that bright star, you'll know it's your mother, and she's sending you a message that says "I'm well, and I'll always be with you."

I am so very sorry. Many hugs to you.
 
I'm sorry, OD. If you are any indication of who your mother was, then she certainly must have been every bit as wonderful as you described her. I hope that the happy memories you have of her will soon overpower the pain of losing her.
 
Not weird at all, and we none of us, really think our parents will die, especially our mothers. We don't really understand our parents until much later in our lives, and then, as you did, we see their character in all it's glory. I wish you only good and bright memories of her and hope you know the blessing you had being able to spend the last days with her.

Now you made me cry.
 
I lost my mom a year ago July 1st. It was a tragic accident and completely unexpected. It is one of the hardest events I have had to ever endure in my life. My thoughts and prayers go out to you during this terribly difficult time.
 
Well...dang it. Deepest condolences. I will have good thoughts for you and your family.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be there best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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sheeeeeeeet I've never met you before and you've made me cry already. Kudos to you for having the sensitivity and clarity of mind to recognize such grace and compassion and love in another human being.

I don't know how you are feeling, I've never met you and you walk your open path but, from what I've read here I will say it sounds like you had a strong and healthy relationship with your mum. This will fortify you in the days to come. You will likely be "a chip off the old block" if you are lucky.

Reach within yourself and you will find her.

There likely will never be another day while you breathe air on this earth when you will not at some point during the day think of her and miss her because of her greatness. Still this too is a gift.

Hang tough...my deepest condolences. You were blessed.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be there best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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I have profound sorrow for you and your loss of such a great woman, and mother.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be there best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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I'm terribly sorry to hear of you loss OD. I think we honour our parents who leave us by keeping them in our hearts and keeping memories of them dear to who we are as people ourselves. I don't really know you, just know you from my experiences in discussing issues here with you, but I can tell that your parents did a terrific job raising you and instilling honesty and decency within you. That's a wonderful tribute to the greatness of your parents.

Bless you and your family and be well - you'll be in my thoughts.
 
I empathize and sympathize your mother's passing. I hope you have a good support system around you.
 
It's always difficult to lose a parent, no matter how old you are. Wishing you comfort as you celebrate your mom's life.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. *hugs*
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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You have my deepest sympathies. My own mother passed away in 2008 of complications from COPD. Like your mom, she was a fighter. She lived two years longer then her doctors thought possible. The will to live is a powerful force.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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it sounds like your mom was an awesome person. i'm really sorry, opendebate.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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You have my sympathies. My mother passed away last year to breast cancer.The only advice I can give you is to be around your loved ones and make sure they are not alone.
 
I'm very sorry for your loss, OD.
 
Deepest sympathy to you in the loss of your precious mom.
 
I'm sorry for your loss OD. She sounds like a great lady and a wonderful mother. Take care and it was not weird to express your love and respect in this manner. I hope it helped in whatever small way it might have to do so.
 
Thank you for sharing this and you have my heartfelt condolences for your loss.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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What a beautiful tribute to your Mother! *hug* I hope you had a chance to tell her the things you have posted here, so she could hear how much she was loved and admired, too! My siblings and I did have that chance, and we also asked for her forgiveness for being rotten kids sometimes, and she smiled, even in her pain.

May she rest in peace. :peace:

Greetings, opendebate. :2wave: So sorry for your loss.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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ODB, I'm not ashamed to say you've gotten to me ... welled up and everything.
So very sorry to hear.
 
My deepest condolences. May her lovely spirit be with you for always.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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Sorry to hear that. Take time to mourn, but afterward, focus on the memories of your mom and the good times you had with her. I find that that always helps when remembering a loved one.
 
opendebate said:
I know this is weird but I am honestly so heavy with such sadness that I just wanted a place to voice it. My Mom passed away yesterday. I spent the last 4 nights with her as she struggled against it until finally she was gone. She was one of the strongest women I have ever known. Not in the way I feel like people define strength today. She wasn't loud or forceful, she made no demands, she was quiet and humble even though she was smarter than anyone ever gave her credit for. She had an incredibly hard life but she stayed generous and non-judgmental of everyone. She somehow managed to stay grateful, with so much to complain about she stayed grateful. She showed up every day and did what needed to be done without ever asking for recognition and kept doing it even when most would have walked away and taken care of themselves. She was kind and decent in the way those characteristics were meant to be rewarded a person. She was physically beautiful but didn't have an ounce of vanity. She was empathetic but looked to others to be their best in a way that invoked their better selves rather than condemned them for their mistakes. I will miss her always.
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Beautifully said. A fine tribute that is a credit to her and to you. My own mother recently went into hospice care. I hope I do as well as you when her time comes.
 
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