Asking for prayers.

To whatever god you worship or higher power or just positive thought. And I was not sure where to put this so if it is in the wrong forum, my apologies, and please move it to the proper forum.

I got this email from my best friend:

So, my brother-in-law came home from the hospital today. The cancer has grown tumors all over the place, despite numerous bouts of chemo and radiation - but the worst of it is the tumors in his esophagus that leak mucus. He can't swallow it, so he throws it up. He can't really eat or drink. The hospice care that their insurance provides is two days a week. He has an oxygen machine and a morphine drip that only allows so much morphine per day. If he doesn't go quickly, my sister will have to turn him frequently, dress his bedsores, change his diapers, bathe him and watch him die in agony.

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My request is that he does not linger. That he goes FAST so there is not so much agony and pain for him...and his wife and children having to see it.
We give more compassion to our pets than we are allowed to do for our loved ones that are human..and that is just ****ed up. So please. Light a candle, pray, send vibes to whomever or whatever that he is released really REALLY fast from this life.

You are right, we treat our terminally ill loved ones who are suffering with less respect than we do our pets. But I don’t want to make this political so I’ll just say I’m sorry, Enola, and I hope he is out of pain very soon.

It's a horrible way to die. I had a friend that died in a similar manner. All her friends and family kept telling her to hang on for her 7 year old daughter. But there was no hope. She looked like a holocaust victim. I have never seen such pain and agony even with the morphine drip. One day, while she was semi lucid and the family downstairs, she told me that she had a dream that her mother was at the bottom of a cliff, beckoning for her to jump and she would catch her..but she was afraid to jump. As she and I sat there in that death room, with her hooked up to machines and all drugged up but still able to tell me this, I leaned in close, hugged her gently and said "jump, laura. Your mama will catch you. Your daughter will be fine. Its been seen to. Dont suffer over something beyond your control. JUMP. And if she comes again tonight....do it. Just jump off and float. It will be wonderful!" and she smiled and said she would try. The next morning, the family came over (I lived next door because she was a tenant of mine and turned into a good friend) and said she died.
I wish for this man, who I never met, to jump too. Or float. Or do whatever his own loved one asks him to do, to end his suffering.

God grant me the blessing of never going like that, and having the courage to do it myself before I ever get that bad. Bless him. Please, I beg, that he go really really fast. Hopefully within the next day or two. Or less.

I believe in the power of prayer from friends, family and strangers alike. So please send thoughts that he goes. Quick.

I am truly sorry to hear this; I would not wish cancer on my worst enemy. I will pray for him and for the family.

my dear uncle died of lung cancer and he never expressed that he was suffering ,but we used to know that he was suffering because lung cancer was the worst type and we acted as if he wouldnt die and everything going on was so normal although doctors said he had just two months left..I prayed a lot to god ,,,,we had lost my grandfather just a few days before we heard he got cancer and now another sorrow was about to visit us.my uncle was my best friend and confidant .he wanted to get out of hospital and was still standing up when he died.he had watched football match outside then came home and died at that night.then two months after his death ,my other best friend grandmother died because of sorrow he felt after his husband and son.

I lost them within 4 months.I accepted my loss of loved ones but couldnt still forget..

enola all I can do for your friend is to pray for him

My father died of colon cancer when I was four years old. After all this time, I have only two memories of him. One, when he came into the house dressed as Santa and the other, when he was in his bed...waiting to die.

I don't pray, but I sincerely hope your best friend's family have lots of good memories...like Santa...

I'll keep everybody involved in my thoughts. If it's a quick end they're seeking that's what I'll be hoping for. Nobody deserves to die in agony.

will do. that's a real mess. i hope that his situation improves.

I'm so sorry, Enola. That sounds just horrible. I too am having to restrain myself from making this political, because it is just so sad and frustrating that I don't know how someone can't be moved by it.

I will keep him in my thoughts; I'm not a prayer, but I'm here for you, and I do think that we hang on sometimes because we believe others want us to. I hope that he will realize it's ok to go, when he's ready.

Thank you all for your assistance. He died quietly and peacefully in his sleep last night. No more pain. No more suffering.
Now his wife and children must carry on the best they can but she is a strong woman and she has their children to be stronger for.

Again, thank you.

Enola said:

Thank you all for your assistance. He died quietly and peacefully in his sleep last night. No more pain. No more suffering.
Now his wife and children must carry on the best they can but she is a strong woman and she has their children to be stronger for.

Again, thank you.

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It somehow seems odd to say that I'm glad to hear that, but I am. I am glad he went quickly and in dreams.

My best wishes to her and their children as go through this. I hope they're alright. At least they knew it was coming. Being able to know our time is near and prepare and say goodbye properly is preferable I suppose.