There's an old saying:
Adversity Builds Character.
During one of the hardest points in my life I had a good friend who said something I've never forgotten on that topic.
Adversity does not build character, it demonstrates character.
His position was that character is something we obtain throughout our lives. From family, school, church, neighbors, work and the people around us. It is instilled within us from the youngest age, it's a part of socialization.
However, when adversity strikes us, we have the opportunity to stand up to that adversity and face it head on or run from it. Some will stand, that we know, others will run and even some will do what's called just riding the wave.
Now, for those who stand we claim that adversity built their character and made them who they are. For those who run and hide with a bottle of alchohol or drugs we often comment that adversity destroyed them, it's not their fault. Then of course we have the wave riders who never run from adversity or stand up to it, rather they just go wherever it takes them and have a "whatever" type attitude towards life.
So, in your opinion, does Adversity Build Character or does Adversity Demonstrate Character? And if Adversity does not build character, then what in your opinion does build character?