Of course, you're free to donate to the charities of your choice, to help them. And, naturally, one expects that you'll take care of your own parents rather than having them become a burden to others. But that's only if you care about them. And if you don't care enough about them to care for them, why should you care if others don't want to care for them, either? If you owe your parents nothing, what do strangers owe them?