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Manipulation - do you use it regularly

How often do you use manipulation?

  • Daily - Fairly often

    Votes: 8 34.8%
  • Weekly - Occasionally

    Votes: 2 8.7%
  • Monthly - Not often at all unless I really have to

    Votes: 6 26.1%
  • I am in denial and never manipulate anyone

    Votes: 7 30.4%

  • Total voters
    23

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All people have the means to be manipulative in order to get what they want. Whether a person uses it to schmooze a co-worker in covering a shift for them, or manipulating an irate customer to get them to calm down.

How often would you say you manipulate people and what is your motivation MOST times when you consciously manipulate people.
 
All people have the means to be manipulative in order to get what they want. Whether a person uses it to schmooze a co-worker in covering a shift for them, or manipulating an irate customer to get them to calm down.

How often would you say you manipulate people and what is your motivation MOST times when you consciously manipulate people.

Pretty often. Without even realizing it some of the time.

You know, there's a thing called the power of persuasion. It can be effected pretty honestly by some people. But I think over time I have added certain expressions and responses that work, just unconsciously (maybe consciously too) incorporated them into the system. Seems like I do it a lot, manipulate certain types of people when in person. It doesn't work with everybody.

The motivation is usually to get a desired outcome at work.


Edit: Just checked the poll results, and it appears 3 of the voters are more dishonest than me.
 
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I use it all the time, mainly when I'm at school, because people around me think they're real smart.

I don't manipulate close friends though, unless it really important that they do something they otherwise might not do. If I ever manipulate a friend, I make sure to tell them about it, and thankfully I've never had an instance where it hurt anyone.
 
All people have the means to be manipulative in order to get what they want. Whether a person uses it to schmooze a co-worker in covering a shift for them, or manipulating an irate customer to get them to calm down.

How often would you say you manipulate people and what is your motivation MOST times when you consciously manipulate people.

We use manipulation all the time. Although the word "manipulation" has a rather negative connotation, it doesn't have to be negative at all. It's called by other names though: good manners; social graces; persuasion; skillful management; strong closing skills (in sales); and I'm sure many others I can't think of right now.

In the negative sense, I think it's most often used by passive-aggressive people to get want they want at the expensive of others. Serious manipulators are sociopaths. I'm not that person. Funny, though, I usually don't recognize it's been done to me (in the negative way) until a bit later in a "transaction." P's me off!!!
 
We use manipulation all the time. Although the word "manipulation" has a rather negative connotation, it doesn't have to be negative at all. It's called by other names though: good manners; social graces; persuasion; skillful management; strong closing skills (in sales); and I'm sure many others I can't think of right now.

In the negative sense, I think it's most often used by passive-aggressive people to get want they want at the expensive of others. Serious manipulators are sociopaths. I'm not that person. Funny, though, I usually don't recognize it's been done to me (in the negative way) until a bit later in a "transaction." P's me off!!!

I think I always recognize it when its attempted on me. Takes one to know one, I guess. But you can purposely let a manipulator get away with it to the extent that that helps you get what you want in the end. I personally feel I can justify that, though, knowing that my efforts were surely more honest than theirs...
 
The simple truth of life is that men love women and women love to be loved by men.
 
My favorites are:
"Eat your dinner and you can have a soda."
"Clean your room and you can play video games."
"Leave me alone and you can do whatever." <--- /sarcasm :p (although, I wonder who is truly getting manipulated in this situation)
 
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My manipulations are limited to direct persuasion and coercion, I'm not subtle enough for anything else. :lol:
 
My favorites are:
"Eat your dinner and you can have a soda."
"Clean your room and you can play video games."
"Leave me alone and you can do whatever." <--- /sarcasm :p
That is more bribery than manipulation... :lol:
 
All people have the means to be manipulative in order to get what they want. Whether a person uses it to schmooze a co-worker in covering a shift for them, or manipulating an irate customer to get them to calm down.

How often would you say you manipulate people and what is your motivation MOST times when you consciously manipulate people.
Mmmmberrrry eeeenteresting…

People in denial, and people who don’t know they’re in denial… And some honest ones…

IMO, if you speak to one person in a day, you were probably a little ‘manipulative’ to some degree – even the teensiest. ‘No problem’, when it was. You may need a favor one day.

Every day, it can’t be helped. I like to think it’s not for malicious purposes, but then it’s subjective what I think is the greater good…

Peace
 
Actually its not even really bribery. Sodas and video games are the norm. Just using ultimatums correctly.
Really.

When I tell my kids to do something, I don't tell them I'll give them something for doing it. I tell them to do it because I'm their mother and if they choose not to, then there are consequences. /shrug Now if I wanted to manipulate the situation, I could do so without them having any idea that that is what I was doing and it wouldn't have the end result of a tangible 'reward' in order to be successful.

That's what I'm asking about.
 
This is the extent of my manipulation skills.
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All people have the means to be manipulative in order to get what they want. Whether a person uses it to schmooze a co-worker in covering a shift for them, or manipulating an irate customer to get them to calm down.

How often would you say you manipulate people and what is your motivation MOST times when you consciously manipulate people.

Does kissing on my wife's back until she gives in count?
 
I just like to be polite rather than manipulative. Or is that a form of manipulation?:(
 
We use manipulation all the time. Although the word "manipulation" has a rather negative connotation, it doesn't have to be negative at all. It's called by other names though: good manners; social graces; persuasion; skillful management; strong closing skills (in sales); and I'm sure many others I can't think of right now.

In the negative sense, I think it's most often used by passive-aggressive people to get want they want at the expensive of others. Serious manipulators are sociopaths. I'm not that person. Funny, though, I usually don't recognize it's been done to me (in the negative way) until a bit later in a "transaction." P's me off!!!

This is where I was gonna go with this... and as a parent and a teacher, I manipulate daily. It simply is a tool.
 
Actually its not even really bribery. Sodas and video games are the norm. Just using ultimatums correctly.

If you are getting them to do something that they have to do, and you tell them that you will give them a gift to do what they have to do, then that is a bribe.
 
I use persuasion.
 
I can't answer the poll because the way manipulation is being described is not always the case.

There is also such a thing as positive manipulation, to get others to consider doing something that might be good for them, which is the more altruistic side.

The majority of the time that people are being manipulated (like with social rules), they are aware of it and they allow it to happen in order to do what is 'proper'. If people were more direct about what it is they do and don't want, manipulation would not be necessary.

For instance:
Person A: Are you coming to the party tonight?
Person B: No, I'm really busy and can't make the time.
Person A: You say that every time you get invited. I bet if you come, you'll have a really good time!
Person B: I'm not feeling well either, so I don't think I can make it.

Alternate conversation:
Person A: Are you coming to the party tonight?
Person B: To be honest, I really don't like going to those big parties. I never seem to have a good time, and I would rather have quiet evenings.
Person A: Okay, I understand. It's just that I want to spend time with you and we don't get to meet up very often these days.
Person B: I know, and sorry about that. Let's schedule a meet up to do something else.
 
If you are getting them to do something that they have to do, and you tell them that you will give them a gift to do what they have to do, then that is a bribe.

But they almost always do what they are supposed to do. And if they keep on behaving normally they know that their expected pleasantries will be there. In all actuality they will have to eat their dinner if they get a soda or not. They just know they will have more rewards if they behave proper. Sure its a bribe but it's also manipulation.
 
All people have the means to be manipulative in order to get what they want. Whether a person uses it to schmooze a co-worker in covering a shift for them, or manipulating an irate customer to get them to calm down.

How often would you say you manipulate people and what is your motivation MOST times when you consciously manipulate people.

I'm quite blunt and straight forward - I don't need manipulation (which I suck at, btw) - I just ask ouright or tell things like they are.
 
I am so good at it I am obviously like

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;)
 
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