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Would you go to a restaurant that banned crying and screaming children?

Would you go to a restaurant that banned crying and screaming children?


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nothing like having your hundred dollar meal ruin because mom and dad can't/won't control junior
 
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The "adults" are the problem, not the children.
So-called adults in their Harley hogs with open exhausts(PA is a southern state in some aspects) make far more noise.
Some children will cry, but its a short term thing.
 
Hell yes.

Let me say this as a parent...there is no reason that your children can't be taught to eat a meal properly in a restaurant that doesn't serve chicken fingers and french fries. My kids did it all the time. And, if one of my kids acted up, he/she was taken outside or to the restroom until the behavior stopped so as not to disturb other patrons. Those are THE PARENT RULES. That's what you are supposed to do. Children are supposed to SIT IN A CHAIR AND EAT. If you have a toddler, you should plan to bring snacks/activities to keep them occupied. Your children are NOT supposed to run around a restaurant or speak in outdoor voices. This is not ****ing rocket science.

Absolutely! I can't believe people these days have to be TOLD to take their screaming kids outside. It seems pretty obvious to me as a parent that it's the respectful thing to do. I've taken my kid to restaurants ever since she was an infant and the rare times she ever got fussy I immediately took her away from the main room until she quieted down. I'm lucky she's always been a really good kid, though. If people have impossible to control kids, the other solution is to get a babysitter and if you can't afford one stay the **** home.
 
Yes.

Nothing worse than having a nice dinner ruined by some screaming kid.
 
so because the kids are autistic the other patrons should just have to put up with bad behavior? I feel for the parents of kids with disabilities, but that doesn't give them the right to intrude upon the rights of others.

the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, or the one. damn that Vulcan logic.

Not necessarily. I subscribe to the notion that this (a noisy child policy) is what ought to be done, but that perhaps this particular case could raise difficulty with regards to the ADA (it doesn't necessarily mean that the Courts would not disagree with the mother in question, but it could possibly have implications). It was an interesting point that nevertheless is not in line with my own views. Nevertheless, the quote given by another article raised my eyebrows, as if the owner of said store said that to someone I knew with autism, I would kindly blow up in their face before exiting the premises.
 
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My older two kids (when they were 1, 2) were *those* kids that no one wants around.

I think all of 3 times I tried to go out and have a nice family-dinner (myself, kids, my parents) - and each time my older two kids would have a horrific fit - like a "I'm terrified of the people, the chairs, everything!" type fit. (they're autistic - it was more extreme when they were younger. there was no 'controlling' them when they'd go into phases like that - it would just be 'separate, tolerate')

That's it - 3 attempts in maybe 6 years to go out and have a nice, quiet sit down family dinner. . . I didn't bother very much because I *knew* it would be that way. . . I didn't want to deal with it.

Now I have 4 kids and my 2nd two were NEVER like that when they were that age (they're 6 and 4, now) - never. I never even had to take them to the bathroom like some do - they simply *knew* that they had no choice but to behave.

Of all the incidences I've had since all those years ago it's usually my husband being the culprit. *facepalm*

But - never then, not now - never would I tolerate it for a moment. When my two were like that I felt like I couldn't get out of the place fast enough - I'd just leave as quickly as possible. it was SO humiliating to have *the* horrid children.
I know how much of a struggle it is to keep kids under control - but I can't imagine or sympathize with parents who don't seem to be trying at all.
 
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Absolutely. You shouldn't be taking a kid to a restaurant if they can't behave properly or you aren't prepared to temporarily remove them if they're causing a scene.
 
When my two were like that I felt like I couldn't get out of the place fast enough - I'd just leave as quickly as possible. it was SO humiliating to have *the* horrid children.
That's what I can't figure out -- it is embarrassing to me as a parent when my kid acts up. I guess maybe those parents have no sense of shame, or it is superceded by their laziness or inability to control their kids. :shrug:
 
Or maybe, because they are used to dealing with a disabled child, they feel like they are entitled to be accommodated.
 
That's what I can't figure out -- it is embarrassing to me as a parent when my kid acts up. I guess maybe those parents have no sense of shame, or it is superceded by their laziness or inability to control their kids. :shrug:

Like Hoggle said, "now don't try to embarass me none, I aint got no pride"
 
Or maybe, because they are used to dealing with a disabled child, they feel like they are entitled to be accommodated.

Just because a child acts out does *not* mean they're disabled in any way . . . it's quite "normal" for kids to throw a fit, toss food and things liek that - which is why many parents spend exhaustive long hours teaching their children *manors* in various ways.

Nor does being disabled *mean* that a child does not know how to control theirselves.

It took *a lot* of exhausting endless work but my younger two DID get passed their issues with colors, textures and other things that would put them into that type of frenzy.

I can tell though - rather quickly - if a child has a disorder or disability which affects their function and self control. I don't hold a child's actual condition against the parents - because I've been in those shoes, too.
 
I don't think you understood my point. I have two children. I'm extremely familiar with how children can be....throwing a fit, etc. My daughter was an absolutely horrible toddler.

I think that some parents believe that that children are just difficult in public settings, and that this is normal, and they aren't particularly embarrassed by it. They believe children's needs should be accomodated, rather than children being taught to accomodate themselves to being in public.

This is the clear cut message that is coming from the parent in the OP.
 
I voted "yes".

With one caveat, however.

Perhaps instead of a total ban, add a special sound proofed dining area with padded walls for those who had crying/screaming children? :mrgreen:

But seriously, a separate sound-proofed area might be an option, if enough screaming parents with kids kept trying to have a meal there...wait...Ah well, close enough.

Would be extra expense, though.
 
I voted, ‘Hell Yeah!’
This correlates to the right of a private business owner to discriminate.
 
Would you go to a restaurant that banned crying and or screaming children?

I would. You do not want to be sitting there trying to enjoy your meal and some kids are screaming or crying because some twits who can't control their kids.



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My kids don't act like that, so definitely.
I'd love to see some of the many jerks, that let their kids run wild, be denied service.
 
I voted "yes".

With one caveat, however.

Perhaps instead of a total ban, add a special sound proofed dining area with padded walls for those who had crying/screaming children? :mrgreen:

But seriously, a separate sound-proofed area might be an option, if enough screaming parents with kids kept trying to have a meal there...wait...Ah well, close enough.

Would be extra expense, though.

The sound-proof room wouldn't work. Parents with screaming kids cannot stand to hear other people's screaming kids, and are usually the first ones to complain.

I've seen a few posts where "my kid" never yells and screams in public like "other people's kids". Note the use of singular and plural. I was an only child. Screaming in public would have resulted in me getting something to really scream about. Outside of course.
 
As a parent with a child who has a severe anxiety disorder, I do not consider it my right or moral to inflict him on others. We sometimes go out to eat, but in the car before we go in, there are threats of punishment should he act up. Sometimes those threats work and sometimes they do not. (Sometimes the threats freak him out and he believes the sky is falling, then we go home or grab something from fast food. But again, its an anxiety disorder, its often impossible to predict how he will take even the most innocent comment sometimes :shrug:). However, I would support such a restaurant and multiple restaurants in my town. In fact I would even eat there on special occasions while I have a baby sitter.
 
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You know (afterthought)

I think these same parents do realize when they're kids are out of line - because I frequent the library and they're never there.
Why?
Because a library has *always been* a place of quiet - everyone expects it, demands it, requires it and sees to it that it's maintained.

So, why is a restaurant different for them?
I think it's because they just *don't care* - perhaps they think "everyone else is talking, there's music playing, my kid can be a little loud and no one *really* knows"
 
I hate crying kids, spoiled kids, smartass kids. Though I do feel sorry for the parents of the crying kids, and want to take the parents of the spoiled and smartass kids to a dark alley, then beat them up. For heaven's sake, how did those parents raise their children? Though I do feel sorry for the crying kid's parents.
 
I wonder if this is an outgrowth of what happens during mealtime at home. I bet it is, actually. At my house, mealtime is mealtime, not playtime, not television time, not torment the dog time, etc. You sit, you eat, you put away your dirty dishes, and then you can go back to running around or whatever.
 
I wonder if this is an outgrowth of what happens during mealtime at home. I bet it is, actually. At my house, mealtime is mealtime, not playtime, not television time, not torment the dog time, etc. You sit, you eat, you put away your dirty dishes, and then you can go back to running around or whatever.

It's totally an outgrowth of what happens at home. If kids won't sit at the dinner table at home, they sure as hell won't do it in a restaurant. If kids aren't trying new foods at home, they will demand chicken fingers and fries (the worst meal on the planet for kids---full of fat & salt). Kids display their NORMAL behavior in a restaurant.
 
This is a beach town, she's shooting herself in the foot with this rule.

then again the story is sensationalized, they are not "banned" but told if you have a screaming child you will be asked to take said child outside.


We take our one year old out to eat all the time. We do it early around 5 ish. IF you are bothered by his antics you can go pound sand.
 
This is a beach town, she's shooting herself in the foot with this rule.

then again the story is sensationalized, they are not "banned" but told if you have a screaming child you will be asked to take said child outside.


We take our one year old out to eat all the time. We do it early around 5 ish. IF you are bothered by his antics you can go pound sand.

your kid misbehaves
and those who are subjected to that unacceptable behavior can pound sand
sounds like you are within the demographic that carolina beach restaurant is targeting with this policy
 
your kid misbehaves


He's one. /facepalm


and those who are subjected to that unacceptable behavior can pound sand


yup, if they provide me with a high chair, it comes with the notion that sometime a one year old will make some noise.


sounds like you are within the demographic that carolina beach restaurant is targeting with this policy


Perhaps. then again a beach town is a family town, those that don't cater to childeren tend to fold rather quickly. :shrug:
 
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