View Poll Results: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

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  • YES! Its a waste of money and i dont want to pay for one!

    16 57.14%
  • NO! Its a Life-Long symbol of marriage and she should get the biggest ring I can afford

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  • YES! Its a waste of money but I dont mind spending the money to keep her satisfied

    2 7.14%
  • NO! Its a Life-Long symbol of marriage and I got another stone instead of a diamond

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  • YES! Its a waste but I want her happy so Im getting a Synthetic Diamond

    1 3.57%
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    I'm of two minds about this. I don't mind the symbolism behind an engagement/wedding ring, but I don't like the "I have to have a huge rock or I won't marry you" mentality that some women have. I especially hate the "you should spend two month's salary on an engagement ring" dreck that jewelry stores try to shaft you on.

    My wife's engagement ring is not the typical diamond solitaire. It is a custom-made 18k white gold band with a half-carat round-cut sapphire flanked by two 1/8th carat pear-shaped diamonds. It was not horrifically expensive and she loves it far more than she would have one of the cookie-cutter diamond solitaire rings that the jewelry stores try to get you to buy. Our wedding rings are quite simple, and both of them together cost less than her engagement ring.
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    I think it's a situational decision. If a diamond is not a financial burden and the couple wants to go this route, I don't see any problem with it at all.

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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    Personally I don't get the backlash of these new lab-created diamonds. I'm not talking cubic zirconium - that stuff is obviously fake as hell. But I have a man's ring with the lab diamond. It sparkles like a diamond, and can even cut glass. It's even been said that trained gemologists (or whatever you would call them) would have difficulty distinguishing between them and natural diamonds.

    I'd just get my fiancee/wife a ring like that. You can get a 2-4 carat solitaire like that for under a hundred, and NOBODY can just look at it with the naked eye and tell it's not a "natural" diamond. All the flash, a fraction of the cash.

    And that's the reason to buy a diamond, isn't it? So people can go "oooooooooooo"? Mission accomplished.

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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gipper View Post
    Personally I don't get the backlash of these new lab-created diamonds. I'm not talking cubic zirconium - that stuff is obviously fake as hell. But I have a man's ring with the lab diamond. It sparkles like a diamond, and can even cut glass. It's even been said that trained gemologists (or whatever you would call them) would have difficulty distinguishing between them and natural diamonds.

    I'd just get my fiancee/wife a ring like that. You can get a 2-4 carat solitaire like that for under a hundred, and NOBODY can just look at it with the naked eye and tell it's not a "natural" diamond. All the flash, a fraction of the cash.

    And that's the reason to buy a diamond, isn't it? So people can go "oooooooooooo"? Mission accomplished.
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    The backlash is from the diamond industry, which stands to lose a lot of money as created diamonds reduce the artificial shortage of diamonds in the market, driving up the price, and profits
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    For the amount of money you shell out, I would say so but then again I made the decision not to get married since I have no interest in having children.
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    I love jewelry - I use to have a business. I still craft it for myself - all kinds. Fancy gems, gleaming silver, rugged titanium.

    But I don't *like* diamonds. I don't like the diamond standard. The faux belief that diamonds are forever, that they represent something . . . and things of that sort . . . I most assuredly don't like the crap that brainwashes men into believing this way by default.

    The *ring itself* being there is representative enough for me to be satisfied.

    If a man wants to buy a ring and propose he *should* get to know what his partner will be pleased with. A man should *know* what his partner likes *before* buying something that's so - permanent. If you have no clue what your partner will be pleased with then perhaps you should get to know your partner's tastes a little better before buying a ring/proposing - this can be done with an upfront question about certain things, or by window shopping and just noticing what your partner looks at while in the store.

    That being said - my husband believed in the diamond standard. . . but couldn't afford it and bought me a faux diamond ring. . . which I developed an allergy to after a while . . . and he replaced it with yet another faux diamond ring I don't like the diamond-ring look . . . but he gave them to me so I like the rings for that reason and I wear them for that reason.

    But do I like the way the rings *look* - no, I do not.

    Also - whenever the kids were born I couldn't wear the first ring he gave me at all because it was too "tall" - it would flip around on my finger and scratch the kids up with the prongs that were on top. It was impractical, in my opinion, and would snag my hair, get caught up on my sweaters and everything else just because of the design.

    So - guys - please become more in tune with your partner's tastes and wants. Don't just *assume* she'll want a diamond - remember - it's not the diamond companies who should be happy with your money, it's your partner who should be happy with your selection.
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gipper View Post
    Personally I don't get the backlash of these new lab-created diamonds. I'm not talking cubic zirconium - that stuff is obviously fake as hell. But I have a man's ring with the lab diamond. It sparkles like a diamond, and can even cut glass. It's even been said that trained gemologists (or whatever you would call them) would have difficulty distinguishing between them and natural diamonds.

    I'd just get my fiancee/wife a ring like that. You can get a 2-4 carat solitaire like that for under a hundred, and NOBODY can just look at it with the naked eye and tell it's not a "natural" diamond. All the flash, a fraction of the cash.

    And that's the reason to buy a diamond, isn't it? So people can go "oooooooooooo"? Mission accomplished.
    I think that's a great idea. A cubic zirconia is virtually undistinguishable to the naked eye and tough to tell under a loupe, so much so that most of them have CZ etched on them to avoid fraud. A nice CZ in a gold/platnium band. If a gal's not happy with that, it portends reeeeeal trouble, imo. Spend the money saved on a wedding or honeymoon or whatever.

    Diamonds aren't even that rare. If DeBeers Diamond Cartel didn't regulate the market, it would flood and prices would drop enormously.
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    Indeed - they're quite common, now.

    For 2 reasons - #1, they're just not as naturally rare as other gems. #2 - the market is saturated with them because you cannot reprocess them (like metals).

    If someone wants a unique and rare gem they should go for Serindibite, Taaffeite, Benitoite, Majorite. . . all have striking color and unique histories behind how they're form. A majorite, for example, is only formed by the impact of a meteor.

    Of course- they're so rare they're likely unaffordable. But if I was going to spend a year's salary on a gem it wouldn't be a diamond.
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?-engagement-ring-set-jpg

    $675 Cubic Zirconia set in 14K gold. Save your money!!
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    Re: Are Diamond Rings a Foolish Idea in Relationships / Marriage?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
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    $675 Cubic Zirconia set in 14K gold. Save your money!!
    Yeah - save your money for something else because that things ugly as sin.
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