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Why aren't women happy???

The Giant Noodle said:
I have met Kai Owen and did you know Torchwood is an anagram of Doctor Who? :)

Do you like Thai and sushi?????
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OMG, really? I love him!! Yes, I did know.

I've never tried either. I'm a Thai and sushi virgin. In my defense, I only moved to the big city two years ago.
 
Goshin said:
Get a room, you two. :mrgreen:
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Dude, in all honesty, I'm just waiting for him to announce he's the same age as my daughter. ;)
 
I gave this response in another thread concerning mental-health in California:

"A lot of people need to understand that life is full of suffering and misery - and you'll be happiest when you accept this, embrace this and just roll with the punches."

The proper focus should be *content* instead of *happy* - happy is a temporary emotional state and, just like fear, anger, annoyance - honestly, I think some people (too many) take it *too* damn literally.

How often am I happy? not often - a few short times a day I'm *happy* but all day I'm content - I have food, shelter, a husband, children, a good life, and now I'm in college to improve my life.
Is my life free of bull****? No
Is my life idyllic and rosy? Hell no - I have 4 kids - what do you think?
Is my life free of headaches, misery, loneliness and anger? No - see above.

3 steps to content-ed-ness:

1: No - you do not need to be smiley happy or have a *good* day to *be* content.
2: Content can be obtained often by maintaining your life how you think it should be maintained - set goals, achieve goals, be content - and permit mistakes, errors, imperfections and complete changes to those goals as *part* of life. . . you'll get to where you want to be if you keep heading in that direction.
3: Get the **** over it. . . life just sucks sometimes - the important things is to learn from it when ti does suck so next time that same thing happens - it'll suck a little less.

Blissful people are those who gave up trying to alter the universe to conform to their ideas. . . and just said "that's life"
 
Aunt Spiker said:
Blissful people are those who gave up trying to alter the universe to conform to their ideas. . . and just said "that's life"
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For the most part, that's me. I can't be bothered to try and maintain a worry or a rage. Not saying I never get pissed, but it's more like frustrated or aggravated, then gone.
 
3: Get the **** over it. . . life just sucks sometimes - the important things is to learn from it when ti does suck so next time that same thing happens - it'll suck a little less.
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Sometimes it doesn't ever stop sucking, though.
You ever read any of those cancer blogs?
I'm obsessed with them, for some reason; blogs written by people with cancer.
I read them all the time.
I guess what interests me is how they- even the terminal ones, who know they aren't ever going to get better- still manage to find some small measure of pleasure or contentment in the everyday, hum-drum aspect of life.
 
BDBoop said:
For the most part, that's me. I can't be bothered to try and maintain a worry or a rage. Not saying I never get pissed, but it's more like frustrated or aggravated, then gone.
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Wow. I wish I couldn't be bothered to maintain a worry.
Rage isn't my problem; I don't get angry much.
Anxiety is such a bitch, though. It never stops plaguing me.
 
1069 said:
Wow. I wish I couldn't be bothered to maintain a worry.
Rage isn't my problem; I don't get angry much.
Anxiety is such a bitch, though. It never stops plaguing me.
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Strangely enough, I do have an anxiety disorder. But that's courtesy of the family-of-origin. I've always been full of jokes and laughter, and an inherent sense that everything is going to be all right. But to some extent that means that when things do finally hit me, I feel like that's it. I'm done. I recently came out the other side of one of those episodes. Things remain really bad, but I'm keeping my balance.
 
BDBoop said:
Dude, in all honesty, I'm just waiting for him to announce he's the same age as my daughter. ;)
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An intelligent way to see what age I am! ;)

I am mentally about 19, so I am legal! Physically I look about 30-32. In reality I will be 40 in December :(
 
The Giant Noodle said:
An intelligent way to see what age I am! ;)

I am mentally about 19, so I am legal! Physically I look about 30-32. In reality I will be 40 in December :(
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You are a mere child. I am heartbroken.

Leave me. :(
 
BDBoop said:
Awww! Noodles are adorable! I'm just not much into cradle robbery. 12 years is - SCHOOL!!
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Heck if I were in my 50s and single, I'd go for the younger guys. Talk about happiness! :nails
 
Catz Part Deux said:
Psht, 12 year age gap is nothing. :) I was dating a 27-year-old when I was 39.
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Its much more difficult for men to date older women in excess of 5 years, because they tend to outwit us. Plus they seem to want to grab the reigns and guys LIKE the reigns.... we were designed to hold the reigns... they really should be our reigns. Also jowels.... we FEAR jowels.
 
1069 said:
I don't know; I've had years-long stretches of "happiness", or at least contentment.
Basically, any time nothing bad is happening, or seems imminently about to happen, I am content. To me, contentment and happiness are the same.

Ironically, though, these are periods I don't remember well, in retrospect. They blur in my memory. I only remember that nothing much happened, and I was happy. I remember the hard times more. The hard times also seem to be my most productive times; they are the times that force me to stretch beyond my comfort zone, and actually grow as a human being.
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:( man that stinks; my happy times are the ones i try to remember the most, in retrospect. the bad ones i prefer to either blur out or find silver linings.

but i have found that if you concentrate on "I want to be happy", you will spend your entire time in the pursuit of happiness rather than actually being happy. it's sorta like if you decide to focus on calming down after you are angry; if all you do is concentrate on your need to calm down, you will keep remembering why you are angry. if you focus on doing something that is calming; then your wrath will ease.

happiness is most noticeable in retrospect
 
Catz Part Deux said:
Only for about 4 months or so, and then I realized that I wanted someone my own age. He was cute, though. :) And, um, energetic. ;)
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What was he 21? ;) Aside from health issues, I think marriages would last longer if spouses got sex outside the home.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
You can't have one without the other.
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My point has been sidetracked... people control the market, ALL markets of which housing is but one. I want people to take control of the markets better and stop reacting. This will effect all markets and then housing prices will be more reasonable. I see that, to a degree, they are combined, but within the larger context I don't see the home devaluing as muc as I see it being set at the appropriate price. If you see that as devalue, then that is fine. Within the larger context, I see it as balance.

I didn't. For the most part, I live within my means. I drive an old car, and will have my house paid off in about 5 years. I don't live in a luxurious house, I live in a rather modest house in a nice neighborhood with good schools. I paid a reasonable amount for my house, and it has doubled in value over 11 years, even considering the drop in the market. That is a huge investment for me, and represents a significant percentage of my monthly income. In essence, i've sacrificed other things to have a decent house in a safe neighborhood. I would hate to lose the money I have invested, just because some people feel entitled to have a house for less than what the market will bear. Not everyone is going to be able to afford a house. I think we learned that in the past 3 years.
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You are among the very very few. ;)
 
man that stinks; my happy times are the ones i try to remember the most, in retrospect. the bad ones i prefer to either blur out or find silver linings.
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I try, but it doesn't work.
I look at pictures of times when I was happy, I can tell I was happy in the picture. But I don't even remember being there.
I don't think that means I didn't enjoy it while it lasted, though.
 
I don't know why this is here with no poll, but the answer is easy, women love to bitch. Now close the thread.
 
So do men - apparently.
Bitch, nag and be lazy and get fat.

Well - in my neck of the woods, anyway.
 
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