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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Catz Part Deux View Post
    Of course, as a single mom, there aren't a lot of people who can make me feel bad about having to work, although there are a few SAHMs who have tried. My kids are okay with me working, they've never known anything else. I can't personally imagine making choices that would make me completely financially dependent on someone else. That would be scary to me.

    Funny you should say all of the above, as sometimes WOHMs try to make me feel inferior for being "completely financially dependent on someone else." I think it all comes down to the old saying that no one can really make you feel anything. If someone has a problem with you for how you live your life, it's their problem. I skimmed the article, and what I got out of that is what we already know. You gotta do what's right for you and your responsibilities. If someone doesn't respect what you do, so what?

    I don't know who all these women are who are so unhappy with their lives per that article. I would think as a women, I'd know a few.

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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    My mom who is 64 was telling me about that, how the feminists, of which she was one in the 60's and early 70's, put so much pressure on women that it became really rude and intense. Feminists insulted woment that wanted to stay at home, or have secretary careers, etc. My mom got so sick of it that she that she quit and changed her mindset a lot regarding women's roles.
    Do what makes you happy is all I'm saying.
    Some women want to be SAHM's other don't, I don't give a crap as long as you're happy.

    My wife has all the choice in the world, she can continue to be a SAHM or she can work to do anything she wants.
    It doesn't bother me as long as she is happy and our relationship is good.
    I was discovering that life just simply isn't fair and bask in the unsung glory of knowing that each obstacle overcome along the way only adds to the satisfaction in the end. Nothing great, after all, was ever accomplished by anyone sulking in his or her misery.
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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    I think society is harder on men though.

    I believe for the most part a stay at home wife or mother is socially accepted and respected whereas a stay at home husband or dad is considered a loser.
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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Catz Part Deux View Post
    This is exactly why I say happiness is a chioce.

    Not for everyone it's not.
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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by StandUpChuck View Post
    Funny you should say all of the above, as sometimes WOHMs try to make me feel inferior for being "completely financially dependent on someone else." I think it all comes down to the old saying that no one can really make you feel anything. If someone has a problem with you for how you live your life, it's their problem. I skimmed the article, and what I got out of that is what we already know. You gotta do what's right for you and your responsibilities. If someone doesn't respect what you do, so what?

    I don't know who all these women are who are so unhappy with their lives per that article. I would think as a women, I'd know a few.
    I would love to have someone to rely on financially. My boyfriend is working on grad school right now, and when he finishes, we've talked about moving out west. It's scary to me to think about being dependent on him, though. My life has taught me that it's dangerous, but he's a responsible person, and I think I actually COULD rely on him. It's just hard to think about, because of everything with my ex.

    My daughter's boyfriend's mom is a SAH mom. She is constantly making bitchy little comments about the fact that I work, and travel for work. I just chalk it up to her being a bitch and leave it at that.

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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    I didn't mean to be rude or anything... I was just countering your argument. I agree wtih your methodology and in no way am asserting that it's a woman's nature to be dissatisfied.
    Maybe I appeared to absolute in my first post. My real answer would be that the matter is complicated than any one answer can stand up to. It's why I tend to not take statistical models about happiness all that seriously. It loosely describes a trend but hardly a concrete explanation. If men are getting happier but women are getting unhappier then that alone indicates inequality in action, even if we don't yet know the precise reasons.

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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Johnny View Post
    Not for everyone it's not.
    Then they need to see their doctor and deal with their depression.

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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Harry Guerrilla View Post
    Do what makes you happy is all I'm saying.
    Some women want to be SAHM's other don't, I don't give a crap as long as you're happy.

    My wife has all the choice in the world, she can continue to be a SAHM or she can work to do anything she wants.
    It doesn't bother me as long as she is happy and our relationship is good.
    Your original comment seemed to imply that women are less suited to be working, or at least, that's how I read it. Apologies if I wrongly interpreted you.

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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    My mom who is 64 was telling me about that, how the feminists, of which she was one in the 60's and early 70's, put so much pressure on women that it became really rude and intense. Feminists insulted woment that wanted to stay at home, or have secretary careers, etc. My mom got so sick of it that she that she quit and changed her mindset a lot regarding women's roles.

    I do believe that.

    I used to own my own company and was used to a certain respect. When I became a SAHM, I was stunned at how some people started talking down to me. I fired a realtor because she would only address my husband unless we were talking about kitchens. I have always been the one to decide on real estate. Not only to I understand the market, I am the one who runs the house matters.

    (I'm gonna toss a wink in here at Catz, because I know both she and I feel passionate about this subject. While we're both living opposite sides of the working mom fence, I'm sure she & I both feel the same way about choice. So before anything gets too heated, I want to be clear that while women may make different choices, that doesn't mean we don't respect each other).

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    Re: Why aren't women happy???

    Quote Originally Posted by Catz Part Deux View Post
    Then they need to see their doctor and deal with their depression.

    I'm not talking about clinical depression. I'm talking about lack of money or other things that cause unhappiness.
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