My third wife pretty much fits the description of yours, bitches, moans, screams, blames me for everything, At first I fought back, but that got me nowhere. Now I say nothing, let her have her spells with no opposition, and we have periods of actual tranquility.
Of course, I still fight back once in a while, just to let her know I'm still there, at least once a week.
No resistance, no power, as electrical engineers know, and that seems to also apply to humans.
Women aren't happy because while they can 'have it all' in theory... nobody can do it all. Men or women and when they figure out that something has to 'give' it's a cold, hard smack of reality. Supermom does not exist and in fact, she's damned tired of trying to be everything to everyone.
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice....shame on me.