She always had to be the martyr, and never let you forget it either. She is still like that to this day, though she's better now than she used to be. I try and tell her that the world doesn't revolve around her, so everything that goes wrong isn't her doing. LOL But, I don't think she ever will completely get it.
With her though, it could be something as simple as putting salt on your dinner. She'd see you put salt on something and then ask, "Did I not put enough salt on it? I'm so sorry, I guess I just can't do any goddamn thing right. I'm perfectly useless." Now, mind you... she would repond that poorly when she was "in a mood", not 100% of the time. Sometimes, she would just apologize for not salting the food enough and leave it at that. But when she was "in a mood", the world would come crashing down.
Per the salt example, if I put salt in, she doesn't care. However, if she trips on a toy (or God forbid, my steel toed shoes), she gets mad at herself because she should have gotten to it. She doesn't make a show of it and often I had to dig to find out whats bothering her.
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I am the only one from my family to move far, far away from mommy dearest. The others stayed close by, but only half her children attended her funeral, and no friends, because she had no friends. In her defense, she had a very hard life growing up, and couldn't go a day without letting it affect her in some way. She was suicidal as well....attempted at least twice that I know of.
You can't help others who enjoy wallowing in self pity. Let them do their thing, and keep your distance...
As for happiness, some people should go spend a few months volunteering in a third world country. That might change their perspectives on what happiness is...
Oracle of Utah
Truth rings hollow in empty heads.