Options are good. Expectations are another matter.
A lie was told: "You can have it all/be it all. Supermom, corporate ladder-climbing professional, superwife, social community leader, etc etc."
There might be some people who can maintain that intensity and not burn out, but most can't. Most people are happier when things a little simpler, a little less stressed, a little less hectic.
End result? Women who choose to be stay-at-home moms sometimes think they're missing out on all the satisfaction of a career outside the home.
Career women may think they're missing out on the mommy scene.
Those who try to do it all miss out on a lot of sleep and get extra wrinkles.
Solution? Do your thing, Be content and quit worrying about what others think. Be satisfied with a little bit less than "all".
Fiddling While Rome Burns
Carthago Delenda Est
"I used to roll the dice; see the fear in my enemies' eyes... listen as the crowd would sing, 'now the old king is dead, Long Live the King.'.."
CORPORATE GREED AND UNION GREEDDEMOCRATS AND REPUBLICANSDESTROYING THE BEST OF AMERICA ONE DAY AT A TIME
This is the worst kind of discrimination. The kind against ME! ~ Bender
I gave this response in another thread concerning mental-health in California:
"A lot of people need to understand that life is full of suffering and misery - and you'll be happiest when you accept this, embrace this and just roll with the punches."
The proper focus should be *content* instead of *happy* - happy is a temporary emotional state and, just like fear, anger, annoyance - honestly, I think some people (too many) take it *too* damn literally.
How often am I happy? not often - a few short times a day I'm *happy* but all day I'm content - I have food, shelter, a husband, children, a good life, and now I'm in college to improve my life.
Is my life free of bull****? No
Is my life idyllic and rosy? Hell no - I have 4 kids - what do you think?
Is my life free of headaches, misery, loneliness and anger? No - see above.
3 steps to content-ed-ness:
1: No - you do not need to be smiley happy or have a *good* day to *be* content.
2: Content can be obtained often by maintaining your life how you think it should be maintained - set goals, achieve goals, be content - and permit mistakes, errors, imperfections and complete changes to those goals as *part* of life. . . you'll get to where you want to be if you keep heading in that direction.
3: Get the **** over it. . . life just sucks sometimes - the important things is to learn from it when ti does suck so next time that same thing happens - it'll suck a little less.
Blissful people are those who gave up trying to alter the universe to conform to their ideas. . . and just said "that's life"
A screaming comes across the sky.
It has happened before, but there is nothing to compare it to now.Pynchon - Gravity's Rainbow