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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    I remember reading Are You There God, It's Me, Margaret in third or fourth grade; for those of you who aren't familiar with it (I suspect most women around my age are), it's Judy Blume's classic coming-of-age story about a girl waiting to start her period.

    It baffled the **** out of me, frankly.

    While an open, candid, and compassionate take on pubescent girlhood, it was unfortunately written sometime in the early 60s, I guess, when there was a lot more apparatus involved in feminine protection products. It all sounded pretty complicated: hooks and straps, belts and pads, harnesses and girdles and god knows what. At least that's my recollection.

    I remember thinking, "I've seen pads in the store, but where the hell am I going to get all this other stuff?"

    I was relieved to learn, once I got a little older and my friends started menstruating (I was pretty much the last one of my crowd to start), that all that stuff was obsolete, and that it had all become comparatively simple.
    I finally got a glimpse of what Judy Blume was referring to in Margaret after I had my first child, when the nurses strapped some kind of weird belt onto me, that had straps with snaps and a big giant fat pad that went between my legs.
    It's hard to believe that women used to wear such contraptions every month, not just immediately post-partum.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Don't really remember my mom or dad talking to me about sex, actually. But, I did get a talking to after they found out I was sexually active. Also immediately got put on the pill and given condoms.

    My dad liked to think he knew every move my sister and I made (in fact, he'll still make this claim from time to time). But she and I know better. My mother and father were both pretty ****ing clueless about what we were doing. Not that they didn't try. But if your kids want to have sex... they're gonna. Best to make sure they have knowledge and means to do it safely.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by Centrist77 View Post
    agree, i call it big talk only because im going to keep it going as long as seems fitting as most other small talks I cut once intial questions were answered, not always but most times
    What I've found with my daughter is that if you create some openness and safety there, and you cultivate a good poker face, she will ask you questions and feel comfortable doing it, and if she realizes that you will just give her the facts, no nonsense, and then tell her what you hope her choices will be, but not be super preachy or judgey. And definitely don't act super embarrassed or freaked out. Just give her the facts, tell her what you hope her choices will be, and then let her process that. Handling it like that, in my opinion, will create many opportunities for a conversation that goes on for years. So far, this has worked with my daughter, who tells me (occasionally) more than I want to hear, but that is definitely better than the other scenario.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by Catz Part Deux View Post
    no offense, but this is how I was raised, and as soon as I went to college, I went nuts. Introducing kids gradually to some degree of freedom allows the teenager to internalize their own values and own them, versus having them forced on them by the parent (and the kids never really take ownership of them).
    Tell us about it...

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by reefedjib View Post
    Tell us about it...
    I have. You'll just have to search through my 16k posts to find them.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    I'm still pretty receptive to sex talk and I'm 55.
    "you're better off on Stormfront discussing how evil brown men are taking innocent white flowers." Infinite Chaos

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by 1069 View Post
    I remember reading Are You There God, It's Me, Margaret in third or fourth grade; for those of you who aren't familiar with it (I suspect most women around my age are), it's Judy Blume's classic coming-of-age story about a girl waiting to start her period.
    That book freaked me the **** out. I'm glad actually having a period is much less complicated than reading about having a period makes it seem.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Seriously though as soon as she expresses an interest in Boys it is time to have that talk.
    It is not age dependent, it is the maturity of the child.
    You should answer any question she may have honestly and in a factual manner, if you act embarrassed over any of her questions she will get the impression that it is shameful and something to be embarrassed about.
    None the less I wish you good luck.
    Personally I had a Boy and when the time came to sit down with him to discuss sex, i found he had a greater knowledge than did I, which thoroughly discomforted myself and my wife.
    However I do acknowledge that it is different for a girl.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by Catz Part Deux View Post
    I have. You'll just have to search through my 16k posts to find them.
    I was hoping for an index. I went crazy in college too. Actually, I went crazy in the Army and that carried over to college. I used to invite girls to my room in the middle of the day by offering cookies. I met a lot of great girls that way. Nothing like afternoon sex.

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    Re: What is a good age to have the FULL sex talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by jujuman13 View Post
    Seriously though as soon as she expresses an interest in Boys it is time to have that talk.
    It is not age dependent, it is the maturity of the child.
    You should answer any question she may have honestly and in a factual manner, if you act embarrassed over any of her questions she will get the impression that it is shameful and something to be embarrassed about.
    None the less I wish you good luck.
    Personally I had a Boy and when the time came to sit down with him to discuss sex, i found he had a greater knowledge than did I, which thoroughly discomforted myself and my wife.
    However I do acknowledge that it is different for a girl.

    What makes you think so?

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