One is responsibile for their own feelings. If someone feels violated without this actually happening, it is the responsibility of the person with the feeling... not the other.There is a greater good. Homosexuals can still serve and no one has to feel sexually violated or have their privacy infringed on.
Good. THAT'S consistency.Personally, I would be fine with having soldiers not allowing their wives/husbands to events in order to make thing "fair."
One has no "right" to not feel uncomfortable.And it doesn't matter if I'm attracted to every female, would it ever be appropriate for me to shower with women, use women's bathrooms, or go to an all female's bunking facility and sleep there among them? I may not be attracted to every woman on earth, but the fact that I am a heterosexual male means that it will always be inappropriate and a violation of the privacy of women for me to live, shower, and bunk with them. It's not just about my sexual preference or whether or not I am attracted to individuals, it's also about the rights and privacy of women who would feel uncomfortable with a hetero man seeing them naked and sleeping in the same room as the, in close proximity.