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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    Unless someone is hard of hearing then there is no need to be looking at the other person all the time! That can be intimidating.

    Some kind of eye contact makes for much better communication but I guess it varies depending on the situation and your mood.

    No eye contact with someone would lead me to think they were not worth my attention and as someone has already mentioned, no eye contact is often a symptom that someone is lying or has something to hide though in my experience the worst liars and con men/women can you look straight in the eye as they lie/con with no conscience at all.

    Comfortable eye contact is good and makes for better communication. If I am not sure we are communicating I often go for more eye contact.
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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    Whenever I talk to someone, I tend to look them in the eye. However, when someone talks to me, I tend to look down and cock my head to the side so I can better focus on what they're saying to me. I do this because I have mild hearing problems and sometimes need to concentrate on what someone tells me.

    So I guess my answer is "most of the time" although I put "always."

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    I'm a bit hard of hearing. I prefer that someone point their speaking device at me when talking... if they turn away from me, it's like someone turned the volume down and the background noise becomes a problem.

    Also, depending on the circumstances, I may find someone that won't look at me at all while they're talking to me to be disrespectful or untrustworthy.

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    Quote Originally Posted by Goshin View Post
    I'm a bit hard of hearing. I prefer that someone point their speaking device at me when talking... if they turn away from me, it's like someone turned the volume down and the background noise becomes a problem.
    I find it better for someone to speak directly in my ear, so I'll lean in close. It's a habit I picked up from my grandfather, who grew deaf over time because of the loud farm equipment we operate, and my father, who was born being hard-of-hearing.

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    If I'm looking at a woman's eyes when she talks, it means she's flat.

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    I'm a big believer in eye contact.

    I make exceptions for the obvious, like driving or bickering about what's happening on the boob tube.

    I also try to cut people slack when it's an emotionally delicate situation.

    Most of the time, though, I'm aiming dead-center for the bridge of your nose.
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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    I look people in the eye when I'm speaking to them, unless I'm showing them something that is part of the conversation, driving, walking, etc. Even driving/walking I will turn to make eye contact periodically. I expect the same in return, and I expect them to make eye contact with me while they are listening.

    If someone is talking AT me, (not looking at me) I feel disrespected. They want to speak to me but can't seem to muster the energy to look at me? It makes me think less of them, unless I can sense that it's a confidence issue.

    And, if I'm talking to someone and they don't look at me, I consider it disrespectful. I will refrain from speaking with them unless I have to, since I gather they have no interest in listening to what i have to say.

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    There's an interesting cultural difference between white folks and black folks on this subject. Especially the young. Adolescent African-American males tend to look away when they are listening and toward the other person when they are talking. Caucasian adolescent males tend to do the opposite.

    For me, I would get yelled at if I didn't look at my Father when he was talking to me. Mom too.

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    Quote Originally Posted by Gipper View Post
    If I'm looking at a woman's eyes when she talks, it means she's flat.
    you're too much gipper heh

    very interesting posts, I had been thinking I'm the only one that likes to look at a person's face when talking to them. glad to see that's not the case

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    Re: when talking to someone you...

    Someone that avoids eye contact is usually shady. Of course there are exceptions but I do not trust someone who cannot look me in the eye.
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