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For parents--have you left your child alone with a pediatrician or other doctor?

For Parents--have you left your child alone with a pediatrician or other doctor?

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This relates to the Delaware Pediatrician who molested more than 100 kids over several years. I cannot fathom how this doctor was able to be alone with these children--one child he molested was 6 months old.

I have an almost 3-year-old little boy. He has gone to the pediatrician, the dentist, an ear specialist, and a heart specialist (they thought he had a murmur when he was born, but he did not), and at no time have any of these doctors asked to see my child alone. If they did, bells would have gone off, and I would have said, "I'm not leaving."

Have you left your child alone with a pediatrician or other doctor? If you answer yes, please tell us under what circumstances did you do this. For example, did the doctor ask you leave? Was there no room for you in the examining room? Did you need to make a phone call?
 
I think the only doctor that has seen her without my husband or me is her dentist. She saw many specialists in her first 3 years because she was born 4 months early but I don't remember her being out of my site at any of those visits.

The dentist has another adult in there also as all doctors should do whether seeing a child or an adult. The dentist did ask for us to stay in the waiting room and he manages to fill cavities sometimes with shots without her crying so I think he has a good system.
 
Layla_Z said:
I think the only doctor that has seen her without my husband or me is her dentist. She saw many specialists in her first 3 years because she was born 4 months early but I don't remember her being out of my site at any of those visits.

The dentist has another adult in there also as all doctors should do whether seeing a child or an adult. The dentist did ask for us to stay in the waiting room and he manages to fill cavities sometimes with shots without her crying so I think he has a good system.
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Excellent point. I could see being out of the examining room under those circumstances (as long as someone else was in the room). Even as an adult, I know of no physician who has examined me (physically) without someone else being in the room.
 
I'm sorry, what if instead of a doctor, you have a doctor and a nurse, molesting the child instead? It's like you can't trust anybody anymore.
 
nonpareil said:
I'm sorry, what if instead of a doctor, you have a doctor and a nurse, molesting the child instead? It's like you can't trust anybody anymore.
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I see your point, but the chances that both individuals would be molesters and would conspire to molest a child or children are pretty small. As I said, there would be very limited circumstances that I would leave a doctor and another person alone with my child.
 
aps said:
I see your point, but the chances that both individuals would be molesters and would conspire to molest a child or children are pretty small. As I said, there would be very limited circumstances that I would leave a doctor and another person alone with my child.
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Before this, I would have said that the likelihood that a pediatrician would molest children is pretty small...:shock:
 
nonpareil said:
Before this, I would have said that the likelihood that a pediatrician would molest children is pretty small...:shock:
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I believe it is pretty small. One guy makes a high likelihood? Are you kidding me?
 
Nope - never left my kids alone with anyone - even a dentist.

I'm paranoid.

I'm always in earshot of my kids if I can't be in the room with them.
 
aps said:
I believe it is pretty small. One guy makes a high likelihood? Are you kidding me?
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The point is this: If there's a small chance of a child being molested by a pediatrician and it has happened, what's to say that just because "the chances that both individuals would be molesters and would conspire to molest a child or children are pretty small" that it won't happen?
 
nonpareil said:
The point is this: If there's a small chance of a child being molested by a pediatrician and it has happened, what's to say that just because "the chances that both individuals would be molesters and would conspire to molest a child or children are pretty small" that it won't happen?
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I'm not saying it wouldn't happen. To me, however, the chances of two child molesters being medical personnel in the same office and molesting a child together are even smaller than the Delaware doctor incident. But if you want to think otherwise, be my guest.
 
One of mine always goes in alone, but I always go in with the other one.
 
Gardener said:
One of mine always goes in alone, but I always go in with the other one.
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If you don't mind my asking, how old is your child that goes in alone?
 
aps said:
I'm not saying it wouldn't happen. To me, however, the chances of two child molesters being medical personnel in the same office and molesting a child together are even smaller than the Delaware doctor incident. But if you want to think otherwise, be my guest.
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It's not about me thinking otherwise, it's about how cases like this makes one question everyone body no matter how remote a situation one think it is. If you don't take a chance with one doctor, why would you take a chance with two doctors? Just because something has a small likelihood of happening doesn't mean it can never happen.
 
nonpareil said:
It's not about me thinking otherwise, it's about how cases like this makes one question everyone body no matter how remote a situation one think it is. If you don't take a chance with one doctor, why would you take a chance with two doctors? Just because something has a small likelihood of happening doesn't mean it can never happen.
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Frankly, nonpereil, you sound irrational.

Personally, I would not leave my son alone in a room with a doctor. EVER. If he was at the dentist's office as described by someone else in this thread, I could leave him alone if the set-up was like my current dentist's office--there are no doors and all the rooms are entirely open with people walking by constantly. But I would do that only if I couldn't be in the room (because there was no space, my son was uncooperative).
 
aps said:
This relates to the Delaware Pediatrician who molested more than 100 kids over several years. I cannot fathom how this doctor was able to be alone with these children--one child he molested was 6 months old.

I have an almost 3-year-old little boy. He has gone to the pediatrician, the dentist, an ear specialist, and a heart specialist (they thought he had a murmur when he was born, but he did not), and at no time have any of these doctors asked to see my child alone. If they did, bells would have gone off, and I would have said, "I'm not leaving."

Have you left your child alone with a pediatrician or other doctor? If you answer yes, please tell us under what circumstances did you do this. For example, did the doctor ask you leave? Was there no room for you in the examining room? Did you need to make a phone call?
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Nope. There has never, EVER been an instance where I was asked to leave either of my children alone with a doctor or other medical professional. Ever. That even takes into account a couple of ER visits for stitches and skateboarding accidents.
 
I would never let my kid alone with a doctor. Not for distrust of the doc, but for the kid's own feeling of security and my own knowledge of what's up with his/her health.

Kids are scared when they go to the doctor. What kind of parent would do that to their kid. That's ****ing stupid.
 
Friends and family members are infinitely more likely to molest your child than their doctor. Its irrational and unfair than one horrible man can besmirch the reputation of thousands of honorable professionals. I may be futile, but I'd urge parents to keep a clear head and not give in to media fed hysteria.
 
rathi said:
Friends and family members are infinitely more likely to molest your child than their doctor. Its irrational and unfair than one horrible man can besmirch the reputation of thousands of honorable professionals. I may be futile, but I'd urge parents to keep a clear head and not give in to media fed hysteria.
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I agree for the most part. Clearly the people who post in here were doing these practices (not leaving their child) prior to this incident.

Thank you to those who answered my question. Since I know some of your kids are older, it confirms my thoughts that this is the normal practice (not to leave your child alone in a doctor's office).

I'd love to watch/read an interview with one of the parents who left their child alone with Dr. Pig. Why???????????
 
Why?

People live under the false pretense that people can be trusted. People feel that a badge or title sums up one's personality, character and defines them as trustworthy - and this is a false assumption that will only lead to some child being hurt, or worse.

Doctors, Ministers and Priests, Teachers, Police Officers. Aunt, Stepmother, Nephew.

These are presumed safes. When you're in the presence of a Minister or a relative supposedly that person has the true safety and concern for your child in heart and they, sadly, don't always.

Not to say the majority of people are twisted - more people are safe than not safe, in my opinion. But that doesn't mean you can be too relaxed with your responsibility as a parent and comfortable with who associates with your children.

I'm always leery - especially of the people who seem overly friendly to my children but don't acknowledge my presence, first, and don't engage me in conversation when I'm there to discuss business (either it be a doctor or store clerk). . . people like that put me on edge.
 
Aunt Spiker said:
Why?

People live under the false pretense that people can be trusted. People feel that a badge or title sums up one's personality, character and defines them as trustworthy - and this is a false assumption that will only lead to some child being hurt, or worse.

Doctors, Ministers and Priests, Teachers, Police Officers. Aunt, Stepmother, Nephew.

These are presumed safes. When you're in the presence of a Minister or a relative supposedly that person has the true safety and concern for your child in heart and they, sadly, don't always.

Not to say the majority of people are twisted - more people are safe than not safe, in my opinion. But that doesn't mean you can be too relaxed with your responsibility as a parent and comfortable with who associates with your children.

I'm always leery - especially of the people who seem overly friendly to my children but don't acknowledge my presence, first, and don't engage me in conversation when I'm there to discuss business (either it be a doctor or store clerk). . . people like that put me on edge.
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That could describe me. I'm sometimes shy around adults I don't know, but I can be myself around kids right away. You don't have to question their intention or worry about offending them. So with adult-strangers I might just smile reservedly at first, but with children-strangers, I can say whatever comes to mind right way. Guest that makes me creepy? :mrgreen:
 
nonpareil said:
That could describe me. I'm sometimes shy around adults I don't know, but I can be myself around kids right away. You don't have to question their intention or worry about offending them. So with adult-strangers I might just smile reservedly at first, but with children-strangers, I can say whatever comes to mind right way. Guest that makes me creepy? :mrgreen:
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If you are a DP member, you are automatically creepy.

:mrgreen:
 
nonpareil said:
That could describe me. I'm sometimes shy around adults I don't know, but I can be myself around kids right away. You don't have to question their intention or worry about offending them. So with adult-strangers I might just smile reservedly at first, but with children-strangers, I can say whatever comes to mind right way. Guest that makes me creepy? :mrgreen:
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:rofl

Sorry - but it's just the way I am.
 
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