The above point is actually part of the main reason why I feel marriage should be stripped from the legal code all together. Its coopted from essentially a religious ceremony and as long as you allow the government to use the word the religious word will lose some of its meaning. At the same time, the religious stigmas will forever be attached to the government word which is problematic from a legal stand point. If you truly want to protect the “sanctity” of marriage then it needs to be stripped from the law and placed as a word solely in the realm of the private citizen. Make all unions under the law civil unions. This preserves the word as a religious term and keeps the sanctity of it for each individual person on the church they attend and gets the government out of the separate but equal conundrum that they should not be in.