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Have you ever been pursued while being married?

What would you do if pursued while married?

  • I have been pursued, and while I was tempted, I walked away.

    Votes: 12 48.0%

  • Since being married(or in a long term relationship) I have never been pursued

    Votes: 4 16.0%

  • I haven't been pursued, and if I was, and the person was hot, I'd probably cheat

    Votes: 1 4.0%

  • other-explain

    Votes: 8 32.0%
  • Total voters
    25
aps said:
I'm a dudette.

I think you must be joking. In my personal experience, the men who have bragged about themselves have been the most boring, inadequate men I have met. This includes men who bragged about how great they were sexually. It was always the opposite 100% of the time.
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All I know is that hot women are always hitting on me.
 
I once had this extremely awkward thing happen once. I worked with this woman that I was getting to be pretty good friends with, and she was amazing, in every way: brilliant, tall, gorgeous, athletic, fun, etc. At the time, my wife and I were really unhappy with each other. It was not a good phase at all. And meanwhile, I'm having dreams every night about my work friend, etc. I mean, she was ... uh ... you probably get the picture. Anyway, I felt extremely guilty about it. My work friend situation didn't cause my marital problems, but it almost certainly fueled them a little bit.

So anyhow, one day I get this email that seems kinda spammish, from "crushlink." And it says, "someone has a crush on you, if you have a crush on someone else, enter their email here to see if it is them." ... something to that effect. It was stupid and juvenile...so, of course, I obsessed over it, for about 60 seconds, and typed her email, and it was her! So she almost immediately sends me a response and says "so I guess we have a lot to talk about huh?!"

Ugh.

So I met her for lunch away from work and told her about how I don't want to ever break my vows and I wasn't the kind of guy that would ever divorce, or see other people, etc. And we remained friends after that, which I'm grateful for, but it felt awkward for a while.

I still can't believe that something like that happened to me. I'm not all that particularly good looking, but I guess I'm pretty silly, yet also serious, in a yin/yang kinda way, which some people go for.

Right after that all happened, my marriage got better and we had our son. It's weird how when you're in the midst of turbulence it doesn't feel like things are ever going to get better, but they can if you work on it.

The funny thing was my wife knew all about it and I didn't even have to tell her. She just 'sensed' it. In fact, she senses everything. I married someone even more amazing than the work woman.
 
I've been hit on a few times since I got married, but it's usually chubby broads.

I have a theory that I smell like a Snickers bar or something and this is what attracts them to me.
 
niftydrifty said:
I once had this extremely awkward thing happen once. I worked with this woman that I was getting to be pretty good friends with, and she was amazing, in every way: brilliant, tall, gorgeous, athletic, fun, etc. At the time, my wife and I were really unhappy with each other. It was not a good phase at all. And meanwhile, I'm having dreams every night about my work friend, etc. I mean, she was ... uh ... you probably get the picture. Anyway, I felt extremely guilty about it. My work friend situation didn't cause my marital problems, but it almost certainly fueled them a little bit.

So anyhow, one day I get this email that seems kinda spammish, from "crushlink." And it says, "someone has a crush on you, if you have a crush on someone else, enter their email here to see if it is them." ... something to that effect. It was stupid and juvenile...so, of course, I obsessed over it, for about 60 seconds, and typed her email, and it was her! So she almost immediately sends me a response and says "so I guess we have a lot to talk about huh?!"

Ugh.

So I met her for lunch away from work and told her about how I don't want to ever break my vows and I wasn't the kind of guy that would ever divorce, or see other people, etc. And we remained friends after that, which I'm grateful for, but it felt awkward for a while.

I still can't believe that something like that happened to me. I'm not all that particularly good looking, but I guess I'm pretty silly, yet also serious, in a yin/yang kinda way, which some people go for.

Right after that all happened, my marriage got better and we had our son. It's weird how when you're in the midst of turbulence it doesn't feel like things are ever going to get better, but they can if you work on it.

The funny thing was my wife knew all about it and I didn't even have to tell her. She just 'sensed' it. In fact, she senses everything. I married someone even more amazing than the work woman.
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Bravo to you. These are the stories I like to hear, and we don't hear them nearly enough!!
 
lizzie said:
That sounds like a cop-out to me.

If you weren't interested, you likely wouldn't take much notice of people throwing themselves at you.
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The discussion was of course Tiger Woods, and this dude was semi defending him by saying that he had women throwing themselves at him, and all of us judging him would probably do the same thing if we were tempted on a daily basis.
 
herenow1 said:
The discussion was of course Tiger Woods, and this dude was semi defending him by saying that he had women throwing themselves at him, and all of us judging him would probably do the same thing if we were tempted on a daily basis.
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To a certain degree, we are judging Woods without knowing the details.

But I wouldn't simply say that's its the temptation alone that leads to infidelity.

We really don't know what else is going on in that relationship. Perhaps there has been a distancing over time, which coupled with the temptation, caused his will to resist to be decreased.

One thing is for certain, the vast majority of the people doing the judging of Woods are doing so without any knowledge of the situation whatsoever.

I don't think people should rush to judgment on incomplete information, nor should they say they would or would not engage in a behavior without having been in an identical situation.
 
You're right, Tucker. Still, I don't think I would ever have sex with some skanky beyotch from Vegas that obviously was nailing just about everythang, no matter what the circumstances!
 
niftydrifty said:
You're right, Tucker. Still, I don't think I would ever have sex with some skanky beyotch from Vegas that obviously was nailing just about everythang, no matter what the circumstances!
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I like to think I would abstain from getting gonorrhea, too. :lol:
 
Tucker Case said:
I've been hit on a few times since I got married, but it's usually chubby broads.

I have a theory that I smell like a Snickers bar or something and this is what attracts them to me.
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Pudgy chicks usually do more stuff.
 
Yes, & I had a great time of it....:)
My ex deserved it, she turned out to be a real c***......;)
 
Tucker Case said:
I've been hit on a few times since I got married, but it's usually chubby broads.

I have a theory that I smell like a Snickers bar or something and this is what attracts them to me.
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Does your semen taste like chocolate? ;)

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Whip Comes Down said:
Some hot chick is always trying to get into my pants.
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Even hot chicks need a good laugh. ;)


Ive never been married so this doesnt really apply to me but I have been prusued many times by married women. I think marriage is only a barrier for most if it is a happy marriage.
 
Tucker Case said:
I like to think I would abstain from getting gonorrhea, too. :lol:
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Natural selection doesn't favor us. It favors golf gods over morals, or concerns about ... our own health, ironically.
 
herenow1 said:
This also counts for common law marriages. It was said by somebody that it is easy to be faithful, if you don't have people throwing themselves at you, so I want to see if there's some truth to that.

I will make the poll anon so you can be more honest.
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I've been persued alot - and it's easy to be faithful when you don't want anyone other than the one you're with.

I've never even been "just friends" with someone who likes me in that way.
 
herenow1 said:
This also counts for common law marriages. It was said by somebody that it is easy to be faithful, if you don't have people throwing themselves at you, so I want to see if there's some truth to that.

I will make the poll anon so you can be more honest.
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Dane Cook once told a joke (I don't know if it's real, or original) about an old man and woman, how they had been married for a loooong time and they seemed just as in love as the first day they had met, so he asked them how they did it, and the old man quietly replied:

"Cheat"
 
liblady said:
the lotion part, yes. the rest of it? no way, but i was flattered.
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What's the "rest of it" mean? Did he want you to put lotion on his wee wee?
 
niftydrifty said:
I once had this extremely awkward thing happen once. I worked with this woman that I was getting to be pretty good friends with, and she was amazing, in every way: brilliant, tall, gorgeous, athletic, fun, etc. At the time, my wife and I were really unhappy with each other. It was not a good phase at all. And meanwhile, I'm having dreams every night about my work friend, etc. I mean, she was ... uh ... you probably get the picture. Anyway, I felt extremely guilty about it. My work friend situation didn't cause my marital problems, but it almost certainly fueled them a little bit.

So anyhow, one day I get this email that seems kinda spammish, from "crushlink." And it says, "someone has a crush on you, if you have a crush on someone else, enter their email here to see if it is them." ... something to that effect. It was stupid and juvenile...so, of course, I obsessed over it, for about 60 seconds, and typed her email, and it was her! So she almost immediately sends me a response and says "so I guess we have a lot to talk about huh?!"

Ugh.

So I met her for lunch away from work and told her about how I don't want to ever break my vows and I wasn't the kind of guy that would ever divorce, or see other people, etc. And we remained friends after that, which I'm grateful for, but it felt awkward for a while.

I still can't believe that something like that happened to me. I'm not all that particularly good looking, but I guess I'm pretty silly, yet also serious, in a yin/yang kinda way, which some people go for.

Right after that all happened, my marriage got better and we had our son. It's weird how when you're in the midst of turbulence it doesn't feel like things are ever going to get better, but they can if you work on it.

The funny thing was my wife knew all about it and I didn't even have to tell her. She just 'sensed' it. In fact, she senses everything. I married someone even more amazing than the work woman.
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What a fantastic story. I love your candidness, nifty! :2wave:
 
Whip Comes Down said:
Some hot chick is always trying to get into my pants.
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Yeah,only to see if it's true whether you have the worlds smallest package or the worlds largest clitoris :lol:
 
I got hit on a lot by older married women when I was single. Never took them up on it. Not so much now that I'm married, but I am self employed and work by myself so I don't make contact with a lot of women anyway, like I did in a previous job.

I wouldn't cheat on my wife for the world. I've got a good thing going and would be a moron to risk it.
 
So, yes, I have been pursued while being married. The first time, it was the guy who trained me in my current job. I was completely unaware of his attraction to me. Our relationship was very businesslike, and I never saw him look at me in a way that would have said he was interested. So I get married, and he waits for several months before he propositions me. I was so taken aback for two reasons. One, again, I had no notion whatsoever that he found me "irresistible" as he described his feelings towards me. Two, this may sound weird, but somehow I just kind of thought that once I was married, no one really would pay attention to me. But to this guy, my marriage put me in an excellent position for him to proposition me because I had the same thing to lose as he did--my marriage (he was married, and his wife did not like me. Now I know why.). I was absolutely disgusted. This guy knew my husband. What kind of scumbag pulls that crap. I cried. LOL But no way, no how. Ewwwwwww. I would be lying if I said he wasn't attractive....because he was. But he went downhill after that proposal.

The other guy was a guy I would see on the subway on my way to work. I still take the same train as he does, but I no longer sit in the same car as him. In fact, I go to the opposite end of the subway.
 
I had a female co-worker virtually stalk me for months even though she knew I was married....It was 4 years before I actually said more than 2-3 words to her.She kept seeking me out for about 2 weeks,then she got laid off....But it did not stop there.

She would show up during every break and hound me down,even bringing her kids.It got to the point where I would hide in a different part of the plant just to get away from her.After about 2 months of successfully avoiding her,she gave up.
 
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