View Poll Results: What would you do if pursued while married?

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  • I have been pursued, and while I was tempted, I walked away.

    13 48.15%
  • Since being married(or in a long term relationship) I have never been pursued

    5 18.52%
  • I haven't been pursued, and if I was, and the person was hot, I'd probably cheat

    1 3.70%
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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    It always the same: some lady meets me and is instantly repulsed by my demeanor and how I come across on the first impression. Then, after a few days, she takes an interest. Eventually we get to talking and she finds out I have depth, and the ability to hold down a job.

    This happened twice this year. The first time I was tempted because, frankly, I get lonely, and she was hot.

    The second time is ongoing and oh-hell-no I'm not touching that.

    Aside from my wish for my marriage to eventually work out, I attract the wrong women. They have clinical emotional problems, criminal histories, drug use, they seek abusive men....I want no part of that.

    I PM'd Felicity regarding a specific girl and she rightfully pointed out that as I was still wearing my ring then, this woman knew I was married and didn't care. This meant she obviously didn't value boundaries like marriage and wouldn't think much of cheating. Also, according to the rules I took my vows under, separation and estrangement do not afford me the freedom to date. I am as restricted as ever.

    So, I use World of Warcraft as my distraction

    And yes I've told a couple girls on occasion that I couldn't hang out with them because I was scheduled to raid that night
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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jerry View Post
    It always the same: some lady meets me and is instantly repulsed by my demeanor and how I come across on the first impression. Then, after a few days, she takes an interest. Eventually we get to talking and she finds out I have depth, and the ability to hold down a job.

    This happened twice this year. The first time I was tempted because, frankly, I get lonely, and she was hot.

    The second time is ongoing and oh-hell-no I'm not touching that.

    Aside from my wish for my marriage to eventually work out, I attract the wrong women. They have clinical emotional problems, criminal histories, drug use, they seek abusive men....I want no part of that.

    I PM'd Felicity regarding a specific girl and she rightfully pointed out that as I was still wearing my ring then, this woman knew I was married and didn't care. This meant she obviously didn't value boundaries like marriage and wouldn't think much of cheating. Also, according to the rules I took my vows under, separation and estrangement do not afford me the freedom to date. I am as restricted as ever.

    So, I use World of Warcraft as my distraction

    And yes I've told a couple girls that I couldn't hang out with them because I was scheduled to raid that night

    The..uh...WoW isn't affecting the marriage is it?

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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by EpicDude86 View Post
    The..uh...WoW isn't affecting the marriage is it?
    Funny thing, actually....RPGs are something she and I have in common. My wife introduced me to WoW, in fact. I began playing as a way for us to connect.

    Unfortunately she ran off in-game with the same guy she ran off to in real-life

    Having a predisposition to RPGs, I continued on without here, and did just fine without her thank you very much. It just might be a metaphor for my real life.

    Today she operates a rather successful uber-leet guild (Blue Flame) in Rangarock.

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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jerry View Post
    Funny thing, actually....RPGs are something she and I have in common. My wife introduced me to WoW, in fact. I began playing as a way for us to connect.

    Unfortunately she ran off in-game with the same guy she ran off to in real-life

    Having a predisposition to RPGs, I continued on without here, and did just fine without her thank you very much. It just might be a metaphor for my real life.

    Today she operates a rather successful uber-leet guild (Blue Flame) in Rangarock.

    I don't know whether to weep or rage...

    I love and respect you so much more now, Jerry. Mad props, niggs.

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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    I've not been been married, but I've been pursued while in serious relationships.

    I'd guess about 95% of the time I wasn't tempted in the slightest. That's not to say that I didn't find them sexually appealing. That's not to say that if the situation weren't different that I wouldn't have jumped at the opportunity. What that is saying is that if I'm happy in my relationship, there IS no temptation. I don't WANT to **** anyone else. And if I DO want to **** someone else, I mean REALLY want to **** someone else despite the relationship I'm in, then something is wrong in the relationship I'm in.

    Roughly five percent of the times I've been propositioned, I was seriously tempted. To the point that I knew that if we found ourselves alone somewhere and he made advances, I didn't think I'd stop him. Each time that has happened to me, it made me re-evaluate the relationship I was in. Why was I so tempted to risk the relationship for a quick ****? For an orgasm?!? Something must be very wrong if I was actually entertaining the idea of destroying what I had just to get off. And, in all but one of the times I ended up breaking it off with the person I was in a relationship with. Because after thinking about it, I realized exactly why I was willing to hurt them just to get laid. One of the times, however, I decided the relationship was worth trying to fix.

    My boyfriend, however, says men are different and they want to **** other women pretty much all the time. /shrug

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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by rivrrat View Post
    My boyfriend, however, says men are different and they want to **** other women pretty much all the time. /shrug
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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Its funny but when you are looking to hook up its more difficult than when you are in a relationship. I think girls just want to stick it to other girls personally. They want to see if they can take away another girls toy.

    Very generally Men=immoral,Women=amoral

    We would not have GGW any other way.
    Last edited by akyron; 12-16-09 at 01:12 AM.
    Thank you

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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by aps View Post
    What a fantastic story. I love your candidness, nifty!
    Quote Originally Posted by lizzie View Post
    I am in awe of your candor and your apparent high level of character. It made my day to read your story. Thanks!
    Thanks. That happened about 8 years ago. And it felt good to type it, as I realized that I hadn't ever told it to anybody. In addition to all the other things that guys do, we also generally don't talk about this kinda stuff to each other!
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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by aps View Post
    What's the "rest of it" mean? Did he want you to put lotion on his wee wee?
    you hussy! of course he did!

    Originally Posted by johnny_rebson:

    These are the same liberals who forgot how Iraq attacked us on 9/11.


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    Re: Have you ever been pursued while being married?

    Quote Originally Posted by EnigmaO01 View Post
    I got hit on a lot by older married women when I was single. Never took them up on it. Not so much now that I'm married, but I am self employed and work by myself so I don't make contact with a lot of women anyway, like I did in a previous job.

    I wouldn't cheat on my wife for the world. I've got a good thing going and would be a moron to risk it.
    i guess your nickname isn't tiger, then. ;-)

    Originally Posted by johnny_rebson:

    These are the same liberals who forgot how Iraq attacked us on 9/11.


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