View Poll Results: Is Hate a Choice?

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  • Hate is a choice - a person chooses to hate

    29 63.04%
  • Hate is not a choice - hateful people are unconscious to their own behaviour

    6 13.04%
  • Hateful people have a mental illness

    4 8.70%
  • Hateful people have given up on themselves and no longer care if they are decent people or not

    3 6.52%
  • Hateful people deserve our compassion because they're in such bad shape as human beings

    5 10.87%
  • Other

    16 34.78%
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    Re: Is Hate a Choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gwendoline View Post
    Nicely said, Alexa. I agree with you over the terminology of the words "God" and "Demom". They are really quite symbolic words - words that people can relate to as symbols, even if not religious at all.

    For me, personally, I would probably swap the word "self-empowerment" for the word "consciousness" - but the two words are probably very well entwined all the same.

    I think the first quote is a good example of how a person's internal life (or unconscious life) can end up leading and dictating a person's emotions and actions - without the person being aware of what they do / or why they do it.

    In the second quote, I think Singer describes "depression" really well. The outside forces he refers to - I think are just the disowned and cut-off parts of the person. A person cannot resign themselves to life without getting some form of backlash from one's own self.

    It's ironic how a lot of hateful people come across very mean and arrogant, because the more I think about it, and after thinking more about the quotes, I think hateful people are probably a lot more miserable with themselves and with life - more than they are arrogant, mean, or that they are anything else.

    What a life... and how exhausting carrying so much negative energy around. Wouldn't wish that fate of being a hater on your enemies, I reckon.
    Self empowerment is really a verb. I think it is a crucial component in change - to empower others and to be empowered ourselves. It demands being responsible for our own choices but it leads to inner freedom.

    I think it goes two ways. While taking responsible for our own choices and directing our own life - in other words being in control of our own life - we also take responsibility to act in an empowering way towards others, that is not to control them.

    I would say working in a self empowered way changes our state of consciousness so in that way they are related.

    I think with outside forces it is both things within ourselves and other people. We can question ourselves to find out if we have done anything to create the situation and gain knowledge and change. But it is necessary to protect ourselves also from outside influences...the whole process of self empowerment is about that - if we are not controlling ourselves - someone else will be controlling us and what we get will not be what we want or need. This is one of the reasons that in Rogerian counselling for instance, the therapist never tells the client what they think the client should do. Rather they work on helping the client find the place within themselves which will give them the answer.

    Yes, hateful people. You may have heard of the BNP here in the UK. Their history is of being friends with the KKK and being Nazi's. They are trying to change their image but almost certainly are just the same. They recently got 2 members elected to the European Parliament and are strongly disliked.

    Now on a discussion program on issues of faith here they came up and a woman, who was not herself a counsellor, said that if one of them came to her for counselling she would refuse it. I thought blimey does she not know that that is the very thing likely to get him to change his views!! People who hate in this way have usually had no one acknowledge their pain and show unconditional warmth and acceptance of them. When they start to receive that, they start to give it back. When they find their own humanity, they recognise it in others.

    (Of course hopefully no counsellor would be approving of KKK activities but they would still have warmth for the person they know is hiding underneath. Something counselling to some extent uniquelly allows.)

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    Re: Is Hate a Choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by alexa View Post
    Now on a discussion program on issues of faith here they came up and a woman, who was not herself a counsellor, said that if one of them came to her for counselling she would refuse it. I thought blimey does she not know that that is the very thing likely to get him to change his views!! People who hate in this way have usually had no one acknowledge their pain and show unconditional warmth and acceptance of them. When they start to receive that, they start to give it back. When they find their own humanity, they recognise it in others.

    (Of course hopefully no counsellor would be approving of KKK activities but they would still have warmth for the person they know is hiding underneath. Something counselling to some extent uniquelly allows.)
    On a lighter note, this issue of a therapist refusing a potential client, therapy, reminds me of this scene from black comedy, Grosse Pointe Blank, where hitman, Martin Blank (John Cusack) forces his way into therapy with a very unwilling psychiatrist (Alan Arkin)

    [ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2uCXOKxfjU&feature=related"]YouTube - Grosse Point Blank Psychologist[/ame]

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