Hate is a choice - a person chooses to hate
Hate is not a choice - hateful people are unconscious to their own behaviour
Hateful people have a mental illness
Hateful people have given up on themselves and no longer care if they are decent people or not
Hateful people deserve our compassion because they're in such bad shape as human beings
Its entirely possible that time will diffuse the emotion and the hate will go away. Its entirely possible that it will not -- it all depends on the degree of emotonal attachment upon which the hate is based.
Its not about winning or losing or any of that.The best revenge to your enemies is a well lived happy life. When they get to you, you lose.
If you think so, then you do not understand true hate.
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With very little children, hate more than likely arises from "without" - and not from "within". It is understandable a child would hate its parents if its parents were hateful towards it. Who puts those feelings into the child? They do now arise on their own. Little children are almost totally impressionable, and clueless to their own emotions. But if they are hated over being loved, then then they will hate instead of love, also.
Parents teach their children love, and in the same way, hate can also be taught. We learn by experience, and if children experience hate in the home, they will learn to hate.
I do not buy the "born with it" label. I just don't. There are reasons for things. They might be the screwiest, most unimaginable, most incomprehensible reasons, but there will be reasons, all the same.
Saying that people are born that way, to my mind, lacks the brevity to want to delve and enquire further.
Some people are born without empathy. They are like the color blind. They can manage in the world and memorize where the red light is but they don't see the variations of color.
Neither side in an argument can find the truth when both make an absolute claim on it.
Show the baby lack of empathy and it will have none to offer, either...
If a baby doesn't bond with its parents, is not mirrored by its parents, is not loved by its parents, how is it supposed to "know" empathy?
I think I'm more a fluid kind of person, and I don't buy "wired-differently". People CAN change. Just by limiting people to labels - serves to keep them where they are - tell a person that they are wired differently, and they might just believe it. On the other hand, tell them that there IS possibilty / hope that they can grow / can overcome their "condition" - and hey, we just may move the odd mountain or two!
Schadenfreude is pleasure derived from the misfortunes of others. Researchers have found that people with low self-esteem are more likely to feel schadenfreude than are people who have high self-esteem.
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