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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    It depends on how one views the word "forgive". I might be capable of working through the issue in such a way as to preserve the marriage, but deep down I don't think I could actually forgive.

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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    Zyph, thank you for your candidness! I love reading stuff like that!

    tlmorg, I hear you.

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    Gardner, that makes perfect sense.

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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    I could forgive, but I could never forget. That's the real problem with being cheated on. I would always be able to rationalize a reason to cheat on her. "I owe her one." would always be in my mind.
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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    Quote Originally Posted by independent_thinker2002 View Post
    I could forgive, but I could never forget. That's the real problem with being cheated on. I would always be able to rationalize a reason to cheat on her. "I owe her one." would always be in my mind.




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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Reverend_Hellh0und View Post
    Even after your 4th 5th and 6th time?
    Of course, just in case there are others I don't know about.
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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Reverend_Hellh0und View Post
    Even after your 4th 5th and 6th time?
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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    No.

    In past relationships I've had significant others cheat on me, on a couple of occasions. In both instances, I completely removed myself from the relationship and burned the bridges completely. No contact ever again. Thats the best way to deal with it, IMO. There is no need to forgive anybody, since the situation is ended and you don't need to interact with those people anymore. Over time, the anger subsides and you eventually move on and become apathetic to those incidents.

    Now if my wife were to cheat on me, I couldn't burn the bridges like I could in the past, because of our son. I doubt I could forgive her, but I'd have to deal with her in some fashion so I guess I'd just have to go hit the heavy bag before I picked up my kid.
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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    I'm also in an open relationship with my wife. I have permission to see other people, and she does as well. The only real condition is that we let each other know about it beforehand and that everything is out in the open. For years I struggled with the idea and was unable to separate love and sex. They certainly can enhance each other and obviously sex with a stranger will never be as good and fulfilling as sex with the one you love. However, sex with a stranger can certainly be exciting every now and then.

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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Dr_Patrick View Post
    I'm also in an open relationship with my wife. I have permission to see other people, and she does as well. The only real condition is that we let each other know about it beforehand and that everything is out in the open. For years I struggled with the idea and was unable to separate love and sex. They certainly can enhance each other and obviously sex with a stranger will never be as good and fulfilling as sex with the one you love. However, sex with a stranger can certainly be exciting every now and then.
    That really works for you guys? How often do the two of you actually see other people? I think that it would not work with me and my wife, she would probably hit me in the head with a ball bat for even suggesting such a idea.

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    Re: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

    Quote Originally Posted by tlmorg02 View Post
    That really works for you guys? How often do the two of you actually see other people? I think that it would not work with me and my wife, she would probably hit me in the head with a ball bat for even suggesting such a idea.



    And if SHE was the one who suggested it, in police work, we would call that a *CLUE*


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