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Pretty common for a guy to want to have a harem and not share it... Horses, lions, and hippos are like that too. I think evolution explains it pretty well. It doesn't make sense to want to take care of another guy's babies, but it would make sense to want other guys to take care of his to maximize the spread of his genes.
Some people want exclusivity to minimize the risk of STDs, especially if they prefer sex without condoms. They also probably don't want to have to care for somebody else's kid if sombody gets you pregnant.
On a less rational level, people are enamored with this idea of two people being soulmates and not needing anybody else in that way. It makes people feel inadequate if you require others for sexual gratification.
Personally I’d like to have a multiperson relationship. I have seen it work before, but I haven’t had one. Though I would have to be the only male as I’m not bisexual. I am serious about my current partner, though, and I’m not willing to give her up in order to have a multiperson relationship, and she’s not bi, but she’s great in every other way. (
I think you're right about the soulmate thing. People tend to romanticize that concept a lot. It comes from centuries of literature glorifying the idea that there is only one person out there that is perfect for each one of us. I think we have more than one soulmate and that we can have wonderful relationships that don't necessarily last a lifetime.
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