Really? Show me one heterosexual that wants to marry the same sex.
Show me one person whose qualifications for marriage only include that their spouse be a member of the appropriate sex. As a matter of fact... why don't you go ahead and show me a person who, having a person they desire to marry, is willing to substitute their intended spouse for any other person.
Show me one heterosexual that does not get to marry who they want period. Or are you being so literal that you're going to try and pull the old "don't get to marry someone if they say no" bit?
I might be more tempted to take you seriously if you didn't announce in advance that you're going to counter any argument I make with "you're being too literal!"-- or, in other words, that it's not fair to argue against what you're saying because what you say is not what you mean.
But, for starters... heterosexuals in the majority of States are not legally permitted to marry their first cousins, nor their second cousins in some States. Regardless of their sex or their consent. And if you're going to continue to argue that "heterosexuals get to marry the person they want", you're going to have to explain why the State has the legal and moral privilege of excluding those marriages from consideration.
Or admit that heterosexuals really only have the "right" to get married if the State approves of their coupling-- which is the same state of affairs which governs homosexuals, and what we are really arguing about is whether or not the State should approve of homosexual marriages.
Let's not play semantics here. You know darn well what I mean. And what everyone else means by "want to marry who they want to".
Yes. I know exactly what you mean. The problem with this argument is that
you do not seem to know what you mean-- because you are saying one thing, claiming to mean another, and then are attempting to use both statements to justify your arguments.
Edit: Actually lets put it this way. Are you married Korimyr? If so did you want to marry that person?
I'm not married. Thankfully, the person I want to marry fits the legal criteria for whom I am allowed to marry.
edit: And you are still neglecting the point entirely that you are acting under the unproven moral assumption that the answer to your third question-- "Are they the same?"-- should be "yes", without taking a single step to attempt to prove it. Which, considering that I support gay marriage, is the point that drew me into this conversation in the first place.
You cannot solve this, or any other moral dilemma, on the basis of pure reason. Logic cannot answer this question unless you have already answered it for yourself-- on the basis of your own arbitrary moral principles.