Obviously! It should carry MMS and strict for 2nd++ offense..
Yah, first fine, then jail, mild jail time.
Europe is illegally occupied by the US
Can you explain to me why someone should be punished for sleeping with another when married? Others have made it quite clear its just about the kids but if a married couple doesn't have kids you are still advocating that they get punished. This begs the question: if its not about kids then what's your reasoning? People should get thrown in jail because they broke a civil contract? People should get thrown in jail because they hurt someones feelings or destroyed their trust?
If you believe in the Supernatural then you can become a millionaire!
Questioning or criticizing another's core beliefs is inadvertently perceived as offensive and rude.
Then what is it about? I have asked you repeatedly and you have yet to give an answer.Just look at her refusal to see the context in which I am discussing trust, or this issue for that matter. She keeps indicating that my argument is about "a person's feeling" being "hurt". INO she is dishonest or deluded.
I didn't cheat, they did. I broke no one's trust, they did.Seriously... and dishonest goes towards her attitudes about why she doesn want to view her cheating with a married man actions as irresponsible and untrustworthy...
Yes, it is the fault of the members of the relationship that the relationship broke up. It is NEVER anyone's fault but theirs.Look, with KK and riv this is the routine. They admit to being selfish and not caring. It is the "families fault" that the family breaks up, not their fault in any shape or form.
Glosses over what? Of course I've never indicated it was not any kid's fault because I never implied that it WAS any kid's fault. WTF kid are you talking about? Methinks you're the one trying to escape reality since you obviously put words in my mouth and then try to condemn me for what you THINK I said. It's insane. Why don't you try reading what I say instead of glossing over what I say and putting words in my mouth.She has never indicated that it is not the kids faulr, she just glosses over that point that I keep making, for she knows that it will bury her and she will have to face reality. That is why I end it in a "whatever..."
This was a great post overall Arcana... *bows*
Let 'em separate and move on...
My opinion on an emotional level is to put the worst adulterers in prison...
Those that are just scum on all levels and that do this act...
Most are not on that level, so my rationale must then take over and
say that prison should not be an option, but I just get so pissed at
the thought of cheating. I can't even watch movies or tv shows without
cringing when they cheat or lie about wanting to be with another...
It makes me sick that people can be so ****ty to each other, and that is
being irresponsible and untrustworthy in the worst possible way...
Love isn't wrong, and if the "other women" don't know about the marriage,Yeah, I'm not here to pass judgment on others, sorry. I'll just say this, in cases of adultery I never blame the other woman for anything. I didn't in my case and I won't do it in other cases either. She didn't do anything wrong. My ex husband did. He is the only one to blame for the choices he made. All she ever did wrong was fall in love with him. If you can even ever call love "wrong".
they have done NOTHING wrong at all. Once the marriage is known though,
well, they can be in love all they want, but just knowing that they man is
a cheater and all that should be enough to let the woman know that he is
a loser and for her to continue indicates that she isn't much better, IMO.
It's the deal breaker for me. No question.None of these people will ever know the whole story. They get glimpses of what the two parties decide to share, but we never really get the whole story.
As for your last point, it's a cultural thing, you know. While it is true that most of my American friends do consider adultery to be THE deal breaker, it's no so much the case in Europe. Europeans, for some reason, tend to be much more forgiving of infidelity. Except for the Mediterranean cultures, that seem to still regard women as either virgins or whores and where men still think their wife's vagina is their personal property.
Didn't say that it was science or holy writ, just that it was interesting...There's so much I disagree with in there, I wouldn't know where to start breaking that mumbo jumbo of pop psych, sociological myths and evolutionary psych apart.
- I have answer repeatedly... it is about a CONSEQUENCE.
- You cheated if you slept with a married man, you are untrustworthy IMO.
- It is partially your fault if the marriage ended
- You don't acknowledge that it is anybody's fault but the "families" and when called on it you don't clarify. If it is the "family" and kids are a part of the "family" then you are saying that it is their decision/fault as well.