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  • Yes, jailtime.

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  • Yah, first fine, then jail, mild jail time.

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  • Hmm.. Perhaps..

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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by rivrrat View Post
    When you're talking about the kids, it's not a matter of "punishing" a parent by denying them custody. It's a matter of what is best for the children. You don't keep a child from one parent out of spite because someone's feelings got hurt.
    So its better for the children to stay with the parent who ruined the family than the other one? Its better for the children to stay with a parent who sleeps around uncontrolled rather than someone who have sexual discipline?

    Ok...
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by Maximus Zeebra View Post
    So its better for the children to stay with the parent who ruined the family than the other one? Its better for the children to stay with a parent who sleeps around uncontrolled rather than someone who have sexual discipline?

    Ok...
    Well the parent getting laid regularly will probably be happier which bodes well for the kids in the house. While sexual discipline on the other hand sounds horrible and brings up images of Carrie's crazy mother beating her with a bible and locking her in a closet.


    (I'm kidding of course.)

    I don't see why sexual activity would have any bearing on which placement would be better for a child unless one of the parents is a hooker, child molester, rapist, etc. If Daddy falls out of love with mommy and falls in love with someone else this doesn't mean he's destined to do as crappy a job at parenting as he did at being a husband.

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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by Maximus Zeebra View Post
    So its better for the children to stay with the parent who ruined the family than the other one? Its better for the children to stay with a parent who sleeps around uncontrolled rather than someone who have sexual discipline?

    Ok...
    1. Adultery doesn't have to lead to a "ruined family". Ever heard of the very Christian concept of "forgiveness"? I'm sure you have.

    2. You've got a very one dimensional approach to this debate. Relationships are very complicated and people usually don't cheat for no reason. What if there is some underlying issue of physical or psychological abuse that pushed one of them to cheat? What if the marriage was slowly but surely becoming unbearable for whatever reason? What then? Why not call for mandatory marriage counseling before charging blindly down the revenge path? If I've learned anything in life, it's that nothing is that simple when it comes to human relationships. One-dimensional solutions will never work, sorry.

    2. Cheating does not remove someone's ability to be a good parent. The custody issue is decided by an impartial party, the Judge, based on a number of things, not just one in particular. That's the way it is, and thank goodness we don't leave these decisions to the emotional basket cases involved.
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana XV View Post
    1. Adultery doesn't have to lead to a "ruined family". Ever heard of the very Christian concept of "forgiveness"? I'm sure you have.
    I am talking about when it ends in divorce. Thus the whole "RIGHT to press charges against the cheater, if things are not worked out". And if the adultery leads in divorce, it obviously ruins the family.

    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana XV View Post
    2. You've got a very one dimensional approach to this debate. Relationships are very complicated and people usually don't cheat for no reason. What if there is some underlying issue of physical or psychological abuse that pushed one of them to cheat? What if the marriage was slowly but surely becoming unbearable for whatever reason? What then?
    Divorce? Divorce, divorce, divorce....

    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana XV View Post
    Why not call for mandatory marriage counseling before charging blindly down the revenge path? If I've learned anything in life, it's that nothing is that simple when it comes to human relationships. One-dimensional solutions will never work, sorry.
    Why not give the victim of adultery the right to press charges, if he so determines that is what needs to be done? No one is talking about state surveillance of marriages and busting cheaters and throwing them to jail. At least I am not. I am just talking about the right for the party cheated on to press charges.. Why should he/she not have such a right? Marriage counseling could be one possible solution before taking that step, or just solving things between them another alternative. I am not saying everyone SHOULD and MUST press charges, I am talking about the right to do so, and jailtime for the adulterer if presses charges against, if the evidence is good enough and if a judge finds the party guilty.

    I think you are the one looking at this one dimensionally.


    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana XV View Post
    2. Cheating does not remove someone's ability to be a good parent. The custody issue is decided by an impartial party, the Judge, based on a number of things, not just one in particular. That's the way it is, and thank goodness we don't leave these decisions to the emotional basket cases involved.
    I didnt say that directly.. I said, usually the woman gets to keep main custody no matter what. But why should this be such if she cheats on her man and it ends up in divorce, she have then effectively ruined the marriage, and main custody should naturally be reconsidered.

    I simply asked the questions..

    Quote Originally Posted by Maximus Zeebra
    So its better for the children to stay with the parent who ruined the family than the other one? Its better for the children to stay with a parent who sleeps around uncontrolled rather than someone who have sexual discipline?

    Ok...
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    If we sent adulterers to jail. we could drastically cut down on republican voters. Do it. It would only help America.

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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by dragonslayer View Post
    If we sent adulterers to jail. we could drastically cut down on republican voters. Do it. It would only help America.
    Is that true? In such a case we could save America!!!
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by Maximus Zeebra View Post
    I am talking about when it ends in divorce. Thus the whole "RIGHT to press charges against the cheater, if things are not worked out". And if the adultery leads in divorce, it obviously ruins the family.



    Divorce? Divorce, divorce, divorce....
    Isn't divorce enough? The entire family has been punished enough through the whole ordeal to begin with. I would see someone pressing charges and adding even more trauma to the family as a complete and utter irresponsible parent. Two wrongs do not make a right.


    Why not give the victim of adultery the right to press charges, if he so determines that is what needs to be done? No one is talking about state surveillance of marriages and busting cheaters and throwing them to jail. At least I am not. I am just talking about the right for the party cheated on to press charges.. Why should he/she not have such a right? Marriage counseling could be one possible solution before taking that step, or just solving things between them another alternative. I am not saying everyone SHOULD and MUST press charges, I am talking about the right to do so, and jailtime for the adulterer if presses charges against, if the evidence is good enough and if a judge finds the party guilty.

    I think you are the one looking at this one dimensionally.

    They can settle it through the civil courts. There's absolutely no valid reason to switch these matters over to the criminal justice system. None that I've seen so far anyway.


    I didnt say that directly.. I said, usually the woman gets to keep main custody no matter what. But why should this be such if she cheats on her man and it ends up in divorce, she have then effectively ruined the marriage, and main custody should naturally be reconsidered.

    I simply asked the questions..
    Like I said, relationships are complicated. I hope you realize the massive amount of crap that would come out in adultery courts. If you think divorce courts get ugly and dirty, you ain't seen nothing yet. The cheating party will have a lawyer too, you know? And they will expose every single gory detail of that marriage to justify their actions. I'd think long and hard before pressing any charges against anyone who's cheated on me. I don't want my private life dissected by complete strangers, thank you very much.

    But, hey, if you enjoy that sort of thing, and you're 100% sure that your private life and your behavior in the marriage is up for the scrutiny, go right ahead.
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by EgoffTib View Post
    That seems to be a bit over the top. Should people be fined for showing up late to dinner reservations? Jailtime for friends who break promises?

    I think that we both know that your analogy isn't even close to being the same...

    The prisons would have the room too, since we would execute all murderers and rapists.
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by Maximus Zeebra View Post
    But thats not reality.. Say the women cheats, then she might miss out on 10-15% of the settlement as a result, but she still gets main custody over the children.
    For a man he would then loose out on 10-15% and not get main custody.

    Thats not punishment for ruining the relationship, and the family.
    The courts are completely in favor of the women when it comes to settlements and custody...
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    Re: Should adultery be a criminal offense punishable by jailtime?

    Quote Originally Posted by rivrrat View Post
    When you're talking about the kids, it's not a matter of "punishing" a parent by denying them custody. It's a matter of what is best for the children. You don't keep a child from one parent out of spite because someone's feelings got hurt.
    Parents that commit adultery are teaching their kids that adultery, betrayal, breach of contract, dishonesty, etc are ok.
    I think that it is better for the children to NOT have people like that around.

    I think that you keep the child away from that parent to protect the child.
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