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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by jamesrage View Post
    I think requiring the parent who has custody of the child to give receipts to the parent who has to pay child support would be a step in the right direction.


    That's a great suggestion.
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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by Shewter View Post
    As it stands courts tend to favor the mother for the role of custodial parent. So there's really little to no RISK when it comes to divorcing (if you are a woman that is)

    Hell, in some states you get more than just the child support. I can see how it would be very appealing to spit out kids and/or marry in order to set yourself up.

    I don't know. I really think that the child support should be more realistic of a wage and that it should be on a card similar to the food stamp card. So it is used only for necessities. Anything beyond that the custodial parents should have to cover.
    I wonder if it would help if the Mother's receiving support should show expense receipts at the end of the year to show how much money is actually going towards support?

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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by Shewter View Post
    Child support has MANY issues with it at the moment.

    Think about it this way though...

    When you drain one parent of their money to feed the other... you create a lesser environment for the children to be in at the "other" parents home.

    For example: My father had to pay child support AND alimony (all wages considered he was losing over 70% of his income) My mother was able to buy a house, a nice car, and a nice truck with her new boyfriend (since you stop receiving alimony if you marry). While my Father lived in a small apartment (with his new girlfriend) they shared a 10 year old truck, and get this... Because HER income was added to the household (my Dad's girlfriend) my Dad had to pay MORE in child support.

    I ****ing hate the child support system to be completely honest. There are just too many rotten ****ing bitches in the world who use it as nothing other than an income they feel that they are entitled to.

    Here in washington recently there was a meeting of sorts in which they discussed raising the percentage available for child support. Do you know who was notified? JUST the custodial parents... not the people having to pay. They were going to try to increase the amount from 85% total (which is still ****ing nutts) to 85% PER CHILD. How that works I have no idea, but luckily there is an organization here that has been kind enough to provide the same service for the people being raped of their income.
    If a person makes $1000 per month and has to pay 85% of that income in child support thats $850 thats going towards feeding and clothing the kids. Even just 1 kid since it's "total". Thats BS. NO child needs that much to live on. And since $850 is taken away from $1000 that leaves just $150 for a father to live on. How is ANY adult suppose to beable to live on that? Especially in Washington? Which from my experiance is one of the most expensive states to live in.
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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by jamesrage View Post
    I think requiring the parent who has custody of the child to give receipts to the parent who has to pay child support would be a step in the right direction.
    I must have been writing my post when your same suggestion came up

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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by creativedreams View Post
    This comes to mind because I know a few fathers who simply cannot make it financially on their own...some get a divorce and end up living with their parents because it is mathematicaly impossible for them to live on their own. They get depressed because when they get their kids for the weekend they don't have a place of their own...etc.

    Of course child support needs to be paid but I often wonder if the percentages are off?

    It seems to be fine for individuals making over 45k yr but too much for anyone under 45k.

    I don't know the real answer and am asking does anyone have some good insight?


    This appears to be a very big issue with many fathers I know.
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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by danarhea View Post
    If a man can't keep it in his pants, and makes a kid as a result, he is responsible.
    If a women can't keep her legs closed then she is responsible.

    See how that works? Remember it's a two way street. It takes two to tango. etc etc.
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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by danarhea View Post
    If a man can't keep it in his pants, and makes a kid as a result, he is responsible.
    I totally agree with that, but what about the woman's responsibility? If she is not using that money to support their child but says she is and is not getting enough and the judge takes even more money from the guy, do you not want to see justice for that?

    To me both parents are responsible for raising a child -within their means- and a separation should not deter that, but the current child support laws are outrageous and not realistic at all. I have an infant in daycare and to support her- my half is probably about $700 a month (that's an overestimate too). That's including her food, shelter, daycare and clothes in my half. So is it fair to have a guy pay more than that a month to support a child, when their half of the support is less? I don't think so.
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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by danarhea View Post
    If a man can't keep it in his pants, and makes a kid as a result, he is responsible.
    Responsible to half of the childs actual support expenses maybe but not to be sucked dry from money and have your spirit demoralized and crushed....

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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kal'Stang View Post
    If a person makes $1000 per month and has to pay 85% of that income in child support thats $850 thats going towards feeding and clothing the kids. Even just 1 kid since it's "total". Thats BS. NO child needs that much to live on. And since $850 is taken away from $1000 that leaves just $150 for a father to live on. How is ANY adult suppose to beable to live on that? Especially in Washington? Which from my experiance is one of the most expensive states to live in.
    It makes absolutely no sense.

    Minimum wage here is almost 9 bucks an hour at the moment, that goes to show the cost of living.

    What it really comes down to is nobody giving a **** about the non-custodial parent.

    Basically people (****heads) just look at the situation and go, "well, guess you'd better find out a way to make it work." AKA "**** happens buddy!"
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    Re: Child Support Reform?

    The funny thing is they use Rent, transportation (vehicle), and all utilities in their equation when they are figuring how much child support should be paid.

    I could agree with the rent and utilities as you would (probably) need a bigger place, and use up more resources... however, they don't look at the excess amount, they just take the entire bill into their figure.

    The car deal.. yeah, about that.

    If you had no child, and were never with the person you had the child with, you would still pay for your own car. **** off with that nonsense.
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