I haven't posted a poll so hope I can figure out how.
For a few years I've been all but certain I was adopted as an infant. It is not only how much I don't look like either of my parents and different core personality, but circumstantially. I am an only child born 9 years after my parents married. Always in my life has been a distant aunt and who I share much in physical appearances with. She would have just turned age 16 when I was born.
There has never been a Christmas that she hasn't been with me, I used to be sent to her every summer for a few weeks no reason given why, always a birthday card and gift from her. She came to my graduation. When I was in the hospital after the attack, this seems basically confirmed. Across country the relatives that came were my parents and her. Much of the first couple days I was in a drugged up semi-conscious state and she had asked to be alone with me. Then, thinking I was asleep, she called me "my baby" many times, how she always prayed for me and she always wondered if she made "the right decision, but that she thinks I've had a good life.
When I thought of this a few years ago I knew if I asked my parents they would tell me, but what would I ask and why? I am unconfused as to not only who my Mom and Dad are, but also who is my mother and father. It is the two people who gave up so much of their lives for me. My aunt is just my wonderfully loving aunt, but no more than that. If that decision had been made 21 years ago, it was good decision I see no reason to disturb or redefine relationships to other than what they really are.
I don't think birth records should be open to children adopted as newborns or infants.