One way to possibly approach it is to use historical perspective, Frederick Douglas spoke of professional victims, they were the same mold as the Sharptons and Jacksons et. al. I tried to find the quotes for you but there was a huge amount of info about Douglas and couldn't pinpoint anything, but he did write about it. I think when those that exploit racism on either side are exposed and discredited, things will be better.If I said "Jessie Jackson is a poverty pimp and an idiot" at some water cooler in some office building, I'm fairly sure any white people that heard it would say "wooahhhhh racist!", a response I don't think I would get from an actual black person.