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Yes... but it isn't a job. It is fun. It is silly. It is easy. Always has been ...
$100,000 a year on child care? How rich are they? I can think of worse problems...
But - you seem pro child-care regardless of the expense.
What's the point? All that working just to stick them in daycare when, without the expense of daycare, you could work less?
If child-rearing is fun, as you feel it is, then what's the harm in valuing it more? What's the point of even having kids if YOU aren't raising them? If they spend more time away from home than WITH family and family values . . . then why even have kids?
Sure - it's easy and fun when SOMEONE ELSE DOES THE HARD WORK FOR YOU.
My husband did not have the same experiences I did while raising young children - and he still doesn't. He gets teh fun times . . . because I take them to the hospital, the doctor, I pick up all their medications, and I argue on behalf of all of them when things go wrong, I cook dinner and do the grocery shopping, I do the laundry and the cleaning and lawn care, when they have issues (like needing to be placed in a mental care instituion) I'm the one to take care of all of that. I renovate and build shelving. That's what I mean by everything else.
I imagine that the parenting portion of living is very enjoyable when you work hard somewhere ELSE - usually with adults who can communicate and listen - and then come home and put your feet up. My husband used to come home and go straight to sleep - and sleep all the way until dinner time.
Yeah - that sounds easy and fun, sure. Just not for me.
And now - I do everything else, and I work. I now do it all and he's been retired and attending college as a part time student - which I've tutored him through.
I imagine if I just went to my job away from the house and did my work and came home to dinner already cooked, life would be rosy cheeks and rainbows for me, too. Especially if I never had to put the kids to bed or wake them up in the morning. Sure - awesome. All the hard work in parenting is done by someone else. thumbs-up. I'd be more productive, even, and be able to double my revenue and royalties . . . but you know I'm a mom so that's a pipe dream.
I fully get why men don't want to do child-care and be stay at home dad, etc. Yep.
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