Before you criticize someone you should walk a mile in their shoes, that way when you do criticize them you'll be a mile away and you'll have their shoes.
jallman: "It's all good. At least you have a thick skin and can take being poked fun back at without crying. "
BTW I believe that online death/rape/other violence/etc. threats are not taken seriously enough by most law enforcement authorities. Malicious trolls know this and thus know that in most cases, they will be free to threaten with impunity.
The ones who grew up like that are the ones having children as children, doing drugs, etc, for reasons explained below.
This is the basic principle that underlies fact-based sex ed, which is extremely successful in both delaying sexual debut until the late teens and beyond, and bringing down teen pregnancy and STD rates dramatically.
Teenagers are naturally paranoid. Contrary to popular belief, psychological research shows that they tend to over-estimate the risks of what they're doing. But they can only do that if they actually understand the risks. Understanding is why fact-based sex ed works, and authoritarian abstinence-only does not.
12-year-olds don't think like 4-year-olds. They have at least basic cognitive faculties which they will use to question whether your authority is legitimate, and they respond better to conversation than they do to dog training techniques.
Even the most authoritarian parents cannot completely control their children once they start getting towards their teens just by commanding them. Believe me, I know; I was partying with those people's kids. They jumped out of second-floor windows, risked having their entire room emptied to a barren shell, and I suspect possibly an ass beating, to come party with us.
Your children will be exposed to the real world, and if you want to stop them from taking on too much too soon, have a little consideration for their developing minds. They're not dogs. And more importantly, as Summerwind said, establishing yourself as a safe and reasonable person to talk to about the issues they face can save them from a lot of harm.
Last edited by SmokeAndMirrors; 07-06-15 at 09:54 PM.
There is such a rush to grow up, so much pressure, and I think it's okay to be "off-trend." What I'm seeing in young people is that as "connected" as they are, they aren't really connected at all--not in real life, only in real-time.
But if we take overall society as an example, it's pretty clear. Obviously, not all American children will grow up with authoritarian abstinence-only teaching, but it's really only Americans who are ever taught that in the developed world, so we can expect to see the results in the overall numbers. Americans do all live under some of the most authoritarian drug laws in the world, so we can simply take society as a whole.
The sex ed example is easy. Just compare the US to literally anyplace else in the developed world. We have the dubious honor of having the worst teen pregnancy rate of any industrialized nation, and the worst states are the ones that teach abstinence-only the most. They are also some of the poorest, worst-educated states. Abstinence-only has been studied over and over and found to be completely ineffective. If anything, it dramatically increases teen pregnancy.
Americans also smoke dramatically more weed than the Dutch, who live under decriminalization. We smoke more than virtually everyone except Kiwis, actually.
Last edited by SmokeAndMirrors; 07-06-15 at 10:13 PM.
I don't see why not.
Life is short, ride a horse
The poor child will say something racist and ruin their career.:p