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Ew... The "pulls his face into her ass" bit made me pull a bit of a face.
It's acceptable largely because men aren't allowed to say they feel grossed out by such behavior, and women are infantilized to the point where they can do pretty much whatever they want sexually without getting the same kind of blow-back men do.
It's a weird combination of things. It is not one sex or the other being insulted. It's both. Men are insulted by being called "sissies" or "faggots" about bringing up unwanted female attention or touch, and this comes from virtually avenues of society. Men's feelings are deligitimized, because men are reduced to their conquests. And also that women are infantilized. The reason why women get alimony even though most of them work, and also get away with things like this, are exactly the same reason. They are deemed too stupid to be responsible for their own actions and lives.
I can't speak about anybody else's workplace, but I have been required to continually take harassment training that includes cyber-stalking and etc. Arrrrgh, four training modules with quizzes in the past five months, and each one had at least 155 slides. But I can't say that I haven't learned.
So big diff between a role-reversal sexist commercial and what is tolerated in the workplace. Doesn't matter whether you're male or female or gay or straight or whatever race you are or whether your comment is about age, weight, race, gender, nationality, or religion, you can't say it. If I am offended or feel threatened, you're probably guilty. Even "over the hill" black balloons at an office party are discriminatory.