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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    Not even high school, which I do coach (Girls Varsity Soccer 3-1 this season) but I got chewed out by some bitch mom at my daughters (9 year-olds) soccer game last week for not calling 100% proper throw ins from my team. Kid lifets foot type of thing. I called it back and later kept pointing out how she was not bitching about things that their team kept violating but that I was not calling ouls on and she said nothing. Half the kids can barely kick or trap the ball and hop when they throw in for freaking sake. The other coach reffed the second half and was a Nazi about things, the game slowed down, kids got bored re-throwing in balls over and over and it sucked...
    Yeah, parents kind of ruin it for the kids now. My girls used to play softball and it was the same way. The coaches were always wrong, always berated, belittled, and humiliated.

    No amount of money could pay me to do this, and it's sad, because especially at that age, the kids are doing this for fun, and to learn sportsmanship and team playing, and the coaches are usually doing it for free (because they love it so much). Too bad the parents just destroy it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    Yeah, parents kind of ruin it for the kids now. My girls used to play softball and it was the same way. The coaches were always wrong, always berated, belittled, and humiliated.

    No amount of money could pay me to do this, and it's sad, because especially at that age, the kids are doing this for fun, and to learn sportsmanship and team playing, and the coaches are usually doing it for free (because they love it so much). Too bad the parents just destroy it.
    It isn't too bad here in general but it seems to be getting worse... what is funny is a couple days later at our high school game I asked the ref how much time was left and she ignored me twice and the second time turned to my player and said about me, "what a ****ing moron" For asking how much time was left...

    The second half after massive pushing and swearing from her team I raised my arms and in my only complaint of the game, if it was even that, I said, "pushing" with my arms up, like make a call already... she says, "both teams are doing it so quit ****ing bitching"... I actually laughed.
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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    It isn't too bad here in general but it seems to be getting worse... what is funny is a couple days later at our high school game I asked the ref how much time was left and she ignored me twice and the second time turned to my player and said about me, "what a ****ing moron" For asking how much time was left...
    They don't have scoreboards there to let you know how much time is left in the quarter?

    The second half after massive pushing and swearing from her team I raised my arms and in my only complaint of the game, if it was even that, I said, "pushing" with my arms up, like make a call already... she says, "both teams are doing it so quit ****ing bitching"... I actually laughed.
    Boy she had some kind of serious problem with you, huh? She was just spoiling for a fight with you for some reason.

    Things are worse here. The entitlement going on here is just bananas - at all age levels. You're better off where you are.
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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    They don't have scoreboards there to let you know how much time is left in the quarter?
    No. We live in a really rural area and New Zealand is not funded half as well as the USA is for sports. I generally keep time myself but just forgot that time...
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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    No. We live in a really rural area and New Zealand is not funded half as well as the USA is for sports. I generally keep time myself but just forgot that time...
    Dude, you ever consider using the timer on your phone?
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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by sangha View Post
    Dude, you ever consider using the timer on your phone?
    That is what I do... I forgot to this game. In fact, I am generally the ref.
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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by sangha View Post
    Good for you!!

    I have a saying I've used often at work - "You can be right, or you can be smart"

    You'd be 100% justified in refusing to apologize or work with that woman as Asst Coach. But that wouldn't be smart.

    Smart means seeing things for what they are and in this case, the whole situation is nothing more than a problem from the admins point of view. You can make the problem go away, in which case you're the hero.

    Otherwise, you're a problem.
    He's not the problem at all, even if he refused to apologize. I knew though, if this thread when on long enough, it would be the OP that would be the "problem" and the bad guy and the actions of the "board" or whatever, would be justified and lauded, particularly by certain people.

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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kreton View Post
    You are right, and honestly i dont blame them for that.
    Well, you seem perfectly happy to be stepped on so it seems they found the right coach. I hope it gives you the kudos you're obviously looking for from like, Sangha, I guess. Have fun walking on egg shells and apologizing profusely all the frikkin' time.

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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by X Factor View Post
    Well, you seem perfectly happy to be stepped on so it seems they found the right coach. I hope it gives you the kudos you're obviously looking for from like, Sangha, I guess. Have fun walking on egg shells and apologizing profusely all the frikkin' time.
    I've had one problem like this over the years. I didn't get that sangha was calling me the bad guy, but I could not win this fight. Priority is having a fun baseball season where these kids leave knowing how to catch and throw. Which at 4-5 years old is really hard for them to do. I could give up, pass the kids and problems to the next parent on the team and keep some pride. Or swallow my pride and do what is best for all. I don't want to be let go for perceived bigotry, the city doesn't want to deal with this type of thing, and the kids deserve a good coach (little ego there). The other parents don't have a problem with me. Just one. And the city cannot tell a woman to kick rocks who complained that a coach was intolerant of her sexuality. The winner is this isn't really this woman, it will be these kids and want to be there to be sure it does. I'll be able to better protect myself if a future incident occurs.

    Just to add, I do appreciate what you are saying, and I did get kicked last night, but after calming down I don't think the city had a choice.
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    Re: Was I wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kreton View Post
    I've had one problem like this over the years. I didn't get that sangha was calling me the bad guy, but I could not win this fight. Priority is having a fun baseball season where these kids leave knowing how to catch and throw. Which at 4-5 years old is really hard for them to do. I could give up, pass the kids and problems to the next parent on the team and keep some pride. Or swallow my pride and do what is best for all. I don't want to be let go for perceived bigotry, the city doesn't want to deal with this type of thing, and the kids deserve a good coach (little ego there). The other parents don't have a problem with me. Just one. And the city cannot tell a woman to kick rocks who complained that a coach was intolerant of her sexuality. The winner is this isn't really this woman, it will be these kids and want to be there to be sure it does. I'll be able to better protect myself if a future incident occurs.

    Just to add, I do appreciate what you are saying, and I did get kicked last night, but after calming down I don't think the city had a choice.
    Well sure, now that you've got the rolling over motion down, I'm sure you can protect yourself with that. If I had witnessed this, I probably would have gone balls to the wall decrying that you didn't do anything wrong only to have you gut me and admit that you had. Not sure that's the kind of coach I'd want for my kids and it sure would have taught me not to try to speak up for you, but hey, this is all just hypothetical anyway. I don't have kids and I'm pretty confident the odds are way against them ever encountering you if it ever do.
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