Addicts are weak...period. I was one and I was and the other addicts I knew were the most pathetically weak people I have ever met. 98% of them were either thief's or INCREDIBLE mooches. Every single one of them wanted to quit and almost every one of them justified their thievery/mooching. When they got together, they just reinforced those feelings with each other.
The absolute last thing an addict needs is other incredibly weak addicts to tell them how great they are because all that often does is strengthen their belief in what they are doing...which is exactly what CA (cocaine anonymous...AA sister group) did. Everybody was wonderful...no matter what they did. Sure, quitting was the point. But where is the incentive to quit when everyone in your life tells you how wonderful you are (even though you are probably stealing/selling your body to feed your habit)?
You are not wonderful...you are messed up and you are doing illegal things to get high. You are NOT. A good person.
Good people do not abandon their children and/or steal just to feed a habit. Good people do not run from their responsibilities and force others to suffer just so they can feel better. Most addicts are NOT good people...but they can be by quitting.
I knew lots of people that went to CA meetings, claimed to the group that they had quit (when I knew they had not) just so they can 'feel the love'...and then go right back to using.
The ONLY way to kick a horrible habit is to quit it because you want to badly enough.
And let's not forget people, outside of physical addictions, the ONLY reason someone is dedicated to something is because they like it. Why else would they do it?
And that means they can stop whenever they want to. But that is the rub..they have to want to.
And going to meetings where everyone tells you that you are wonderful (even though deep inside you know you are not acting wonderful) is not the way to quit something for good.
Most addictions require pain and great discomfort to quit. If the only way you can stop is to have people constantly tell you how wonderful you are, then odds are you are not ready to quit.
Which is why most people that start a treatment program eventually go back to the addiction.
You have to want to quit on your own...others cannot make you want to, you have to do it.