Your black friend is right.
The cop is right.
Both are right.
Both are right... and wrong.
Both are wrong.
Other (please explain)
I don't have to walk in someone's shoes to understand their situation when it comes to race.
"God Bless Our Troops in Harms Way."
Until we're all able to take a step back and listen to the outcry from each side, we'll never heal from these tragic situations. That's what debate is all about, having the open and honest dialog no matter how painful it may be at first. But believe me, eventually all sides do begin to hear and better understand what the other side is saying as long as the dialog continues and meaningful solutions come of it that all sides can accept and live with.
"A fair exchange ain't no robbery." Tupac Shakur w/Digital Underground
I voted "they're both right, and wrong." It's extremely difficult for the average white American to get a first-person look at how racism in America operates unless they somehow are able to take a pill that turns their skin black, and that's not gonna happen.
As far as the cops go, it's also extremely difficult to judge a person without having been in a cop's shoes. That being said, people who are suppose to keep us safe and police our communities are and should be held (both by the public and by themselves) to extremely high standards. When a cop ****s up and innocent lives are lost, it is indeed grounds for criticism (and perhaps also an indictment of police forces and local governments who aren't doing enough training or perhaps don't have the funds for it). However I also believe that a lot of the anti-police rhetoric does indeed fail to take into account how tough and stressful their jobs are compared to the average joe.
- Colonel Paul YinglingNobody who wins a war indulges in a bifurcated definition of victory. War is a political act; victory and defeat have meaning only in political terms. A country incapable of achieving its political objectives at an acceptable cost is losing the war, regardless of battlefield events.
Bifurcating victory (e.g. winning militarily, losing politically) is a useful salve for defeated armies. The "stab in the back" narrative helped take the sting out of failure for German generals after WWI and their American counterparts after Vietnam.
All the same, it's nonsense. To paraphrase Vince Lombardi, show me a political loser, and I'll show you a loser.
My only quibble, and it's minor, is that I think part of the cop issue is the cop mentality. The "us vs them", for lack of a better phrase. Whether that requires 'more' training or 'different' training, I'm not sure.
If, when defending your support for Donald Trump, and your response is,
"But but but... HILLARY!!!", then you lost the argument before you even began.
Fiddling While Rome Burns
Carthago Delenda Est
"I used to roll the dice; see the fear in my enemies' eyes... listen as the crowd would sing, 'now the old king is dead, Long Live the King.'.."
Conflict can polarize and present factions, factions that serve to identify opposing forces and draw battle lines.
It is indeed having faith that all sides will eventually begin to hear and better understand that gives us hope when otherwise it might appear hopeless at present.
Each event-triggered situation not only requires individuals go through the process stages of grieving those lost, but whole communities doing so as well.
The grieving process can cause memories to surface, memories about ancestors and their similar experiences .. memories that can be painful and sad and irritating.
Sometimes I have a problem with hope when the conflict is still on the rise, fearing it will get worse, increasing the pain, before that which binds all sides can be seen, and the empathy and understanding begins that can form the foundation of the process of dialoging to find those meaningful solutions to which you allude.
Fearing that a matter may get worse before it gets better can cause me to lose faith as I've yet to experience hope.
Knowing that conflicts eventually do settle helps me in this regard to keep the faith, even when I realize how at odds those in the conflict are with each other and how challenging finding solutions will thus be.
I just have to keep the faith, and then I can hope that the empathy and understanding will come, and I pray sooner than later.
When the election is over and we open our eyes, it will sadly be too late to wonder what the hell just happened.