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Thread: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

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    Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    One video is a social experiment and one video is an actual abusuve relationship. Both videos show both genders being violent but nobody defends the man, only the woman.

    Is this a double standard that doesn't bother you, a double standard that makes sense? Would you have reacted the same way? The second video is rather long but it's the reason I couldn't live in the city.I don't see how people transport via subways everyday!

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gOyrYThlOag

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=81CKcMQKt6k&app=desktop
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    I wouldn't.

    The guy should be able to take care of himself.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by herenow1 View Post
    One video is a social experiment and one video is an actual abusuve relationship. Both videos show both genders being violent but nobody defends the man, only the woman.

    Is this a double standard that doesn't bother you, a double standard that makes sense? Would you have reacted the same way?

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gOyrYThlOag
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    The sincerely charming and vibrant Dr. smiled and replied she probably would not be doing that study ( Paraphrased )

    Maybe the comparative situation is coming forefront.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gathomas88 View Post
    I wouldn't.

    The guy should be able to take care of himself.
    And this belief is why women are becoming more belligerent and violent toward both men and women - no one encourages or enforces that women should get a grip on their anger, their temper, and their attitudes. Instead, when going against a man, women are given lee-way and flexibility. When going against other women people grab a video camera.

    Boys are constantly told to keep their anger in check, that they shouldn't fight other people (unless it's a man and it's consensual in the ring) and so forth from early on. Girls, however, are not. They're often encouraged to be emotional and expressive even when that surfaces in very negative ways.

    People see a violent situation and make snap judgments based on their social standards of 'the man is stronger' and 'the man should be able to defend himself' - which is exactly the reasons behind the statement that accompanies the video:

    While the majority of domestic violence victims are women, abuse of men happens far more often than you'd probably expect. Typically, men are physically stronger than women but that doesn't necessarily make it easier to escape the violence or the relationship. An abused man faces a shortage of resources, skepticism from police, and major legal obstacles, especially when it comes to gaining custody of his children from an abusive mother. No matter your age, occupation, or sexual orientation, though, you can overcome these challenges and escape the abuse.
    there is a growing - and grotesque - unfairness in the legal end of things where women are given priority and preference and men are often snubbed in regard to anything remotely domestic dispute wise. People are more apt to accept that the man is violent - but less caring when the woman is violent.
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Depends. I am most likely to step in if I see a stronger person beating on a weaker person. I am sure there is the occasional couple where the woman is the stronger of the two. Maybe if the man is doing nothing to defend himself from her hits I would step in. Regardless, if it looked serious I would also call 911.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by herenow1 View Post
    One video is a social experiment and one video is an actual abusuve relationship. Both videos show both genders being violent but nobody defends the man, only the woman.

    Is this a double standard that doesn't bother you, a double standard that makes sense? Would you have reacted the same way? The second video is rather long but it's the reason I couldn't live in the city.I don't see how people transport via subways everyday!

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gOyrYThlOag

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=81CKcMQKt6k&app=desktop
    Any man who gets his ass kicked by a woman deserves it. There is no reason on God's green earth why just walking away isn't an option. Besides, that's usually a great way to piss the psycho off even more.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Sometimes you see huge women with tiny men. If I saw a pair like this where the woman was abusing him to the point of serious injury I would have to step in I guess but it would be with extreme reluctance and foreboding.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    My ideals are chivalric in nature. The man must respect the woman.

    Thankfully, any woman who throws a punch is no longer a woman and as such will be treated like a man.

    If I see a woman fighting someone chances are I will not allow it to happen whether she's fighting another girl or a man.

    Depending on the severity of the fight I will call 9/11 or simply step in and separate the two (or both).
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    And this belief is why women are becoming more belligerent and violent toward both men and women - no one encourages or enforces that women should get a grip on their anger, their temper, and their attitudes. Instead, when going against a man, women are given lee-way and flexibility. When going against other women people grab a video camera.

    Boys are constantly told to keep their anger in check, that they shouldn't fight other people (unless it's a man and it's consensual in the ring) and so forth from early on. Girls, however, are not. They're often encouraged to be emotional and expressive even when that surfaces in very negative ways.

    People see a violent situation and make snap judgments based on their social standards of 'the man is stronger' and 'the man should be able to defend himself' - which is exactly the reasons behind the statement that accompanies the video:

    there is a growing - and grotesque - unfairness in the legal end of things where women are given priority and preference and men are often snubbed in regard to anything remotely domestic dispute wise. People are more apt to accept that the man is violent - but less caring when the woman is violent.
    The legal side of it is one thing, and I agree that the way our current system approaches the issue is wrong. However, that's really neither here nor there where my public reaction to such a situation would be concerned.

    Generally speaking, a woman is only able to "beat" a man if the man allows himself to be beaten. The average woman simply isn't going to be able to hold most men against their will, or put their lives in serious danger.

    For that reason, no. I wouldn't get involved.

    The impetus is on the man to put his foot down and set his own affairs in order.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Oh yeah, forgot to post, and if I see a man hitting a woman chances are I will crucify the bastard and go to jail myself
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