I'd only step in if its a woman being hit
id step in if either was being hit
I wouldn't get involved period
I would be too afraid to get involved
I would call 911
"He who does not think himself worth saving from poverty and ignorance by his own efforts, will hardly be thought worth the efforts of anybody else." -- Frederick Douglass, Self-Made Men (1872)
Unlike some folks here, it does bother me. Domestic abuse is domestic abuse, period. It doesn't matter if the perpetrator is male or female.
Bystanders generally shouldn't intervene directly, they should call the police. You can be putting both yourself and the victim at greater risk. E.g. you can easily escalate the incident; you can be assaulted; the perpetrator may escalate the violence as soon as the couple are in private again. Cops aren't perfect, and they won't show up instantaneously, but they generally are trained to handle those types of situations.
Should be equal reaction, laws and punishments. But people are hypocrites.
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey
My ex-GF tried to beat me up on the street when I broke up with her. In front of her mom, her daughter, and 8-year-old nephew. She slapped me and raked my sunglasses off my face before I realized what she was doing. After that I was dodging and blocking with one hand, while getting out my phone to call 911 with the other. When the cops arrived, I had some scratch marks on me but she did not, so she went to jail and I did not. It was a Saturday morning, so she had to rot in jail until Monday. Psycho bitch has a felony assault conviction on her record now, and I'm happily involved with a non-abusive woman who loves me like crazy.
So based on my experience, I think whoever goes to jail depends on who has marks on them. I also was not aware, before that day, that since I called 911 for domestic violence (as opposed to just the local police), I could not drop the charges. The district (D.C.) pressed charges. That might just be a state/district policy though, not federal, but I'm not sure.
I probably wouldn't get involved, regardless of the genders involved, unless it looked like someone might be seriously injured.
If you build a man a fire, he'll be warm for a day.
If you set a man on fire, he'll be warm for the rest of his life.
We go by what we see. Instinctively it looks more wrong... Ok more cringeworthy when a man punches or slaps a woman. I also think some women milk the "I'm a woman card you can't hit me", when stepping to men. In that case they deserve to be hit back and I don't feel sorry for her one bit. It would be interesting to see people's responses if the woman was bigger. What I noticed about the video is the response was the same from young and old. I was actually surprised to see young men stepping forward.