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Thread: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by American View Post
    It's extremely easy for a woman to **** up a man's life permanently in violent situations, even if she's the violent one. The courts are conditioned to assume the man is always the asshole.
    Take Jodi arias. The guy KNEW she was a freak but couldn't lay off the booty. Sure, she killed him but to a large extent that was just Darwin at work.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lutherf View Post
    Take Jodi arias. The guy KNEW she was a freak but couldn't lay off the booty. Sure, she killed him but to a large extent that was just Darwin at work.
    I'm not going to say anything was certain about that.
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by herenow1 View Post
    One video is a social experiment and one video is an actual abusuve relationship. Both videos show both genders being violent but nobody defends the man, only the woman.

    Is this a double standard that doesn't bother you, a double standard that makes sense?
    It is definitely a double standard. Part of this is because of the typical heteronormative gender expectations (e.g. men should be "tough" and be able to handle an assault, while women are weak and need protection). Part is because 95% of the perpetrators are men.

    Unlike some folks here, it does bother me. Domestic abuse is domestic abuse, period. It doesn't matter if the perpetrator is male or female.

    Bystanders generally shouldn't intervene directly, they should call the police. You can be putting both yourself and the victim at greater risk. E.g. you can easily escalate the incident; you can be assaulted; the perpetrator may escalate the violence as soon as the couple are in private again. Cops aren't perfect, and they won't show up instantaneously, but they generally are trained to handle those types of situations.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Should be equal reaction, laws and punishments. But people are hypocrites.
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    My ex-GF tried to beat me up on the street when I broke up with her. In front of her mom, her daughter, and 8-year-old nephew. She slapped me and raked my sunglasses off my face before I realized what she was doing. After that I was dodging and blocking with one hand, while getting out my phone to call 911 with the other. When the cops arrived, I had some scratch marks on me but she did not, so she went to jail and I did not. It was a Saturday morning, so she had to rot in jail until Monday. Psycho bitch has a felony assault conviction on her record now, and I'm happily involved with a non-abusive woman who loves me like crazy.

    So based on my experience, I think whoever goes to jail depends on who has marks on them. I also was not aware, before that day, that since I called 911 for domestic violence (as opposed to just the local police), I could not drop the charges. The district (D.C.) pressed charges. That might just be a state/district policy though, not federal, but I'm not sure.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    I probably wouldn't get involved, regardless of the genders involved, unless it looked like someone might be seriously injured.
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    We go by what we see. Instinctively it looks more wrong... Ok more cringeworthy when a man punches or slaps a woman. I also think some women milk the "I'm a woman card you can't hit me", when stepping to men. In that case they deserve to be hit back and I don't feel sorry for her one bit. It would be interesting to see people's responses if the woman was bigger. What I noticed about the video is the response was the same from young and old. I was actually surprised to see young men stepping forward.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    It's based on a survey and there's no research to back it up (at least not linked to). The article explicitly said more research needs to take place to explain it.
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    I have felt pain when I was in the womb. So when you say they are incapable of feeling pain, that is based on junk science.
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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kreton View Post
    Should be equal reaction, laws and punishments. But people are hypocrites.
    Er no. Alot of it is that men dont report it because they are afraid of looking weak.
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    I have felt pain when I was in the womb. So when you say they are incapable of feeling pain, that is based on junk science.
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    A murderer putting a bullet through someone's brain is a medical procedure too.

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    Re: Social experiment domestic violence, double standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    Boys are constantly told to keep their anger in check, that they shouldn't fight other people (unless it's a man and it's consensual in the ring) and so forth from early on. Girls, however, are not. They're often encouraged to be emotional and expressive even when that surfaces in very negative ways.
    For the most part, I disagree with this. Yes, schools are finally starting to learn that "boys will be boys" is not an acceptable for violence, petty or grotesque. But our society is having trouble accepting that truth. And frankly, you could not be more off-base with your implication that girls are not told to keep their anger in check. Hell, the trope of bickering females is what keeps many "reality" TV shows alive.
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