No, it's a legitimate question.
Yes, the abused reasons are their own, and nothing... not even continuing... is their fault.
I have been out for 4 years now but she still is abusive and once attacked me, abused our children and is an emotional and psychological ruin.
The abused woman who continues to stay in that kind of relationship (at her own expense and, many (if not most) times at the expense of her children) is just as much in need of help as her abuser. Maybe more.
"Why do you stay with him?" is an important question to insist an abused woman reflect on. If that's blaming her? So be it.
Thank you, Quazi!