No, it's a legitimate question.
Yes, the abused reasons are their own, and nothing... not even continuing... is their fault.
It clarifies the inherent weakness of the WRITTEN word, as opposed to spoken.
Inflection goes a long way. I interpret the OP as posing this question in an honest, genuine attempt at understanding, not an accusation with a question mark at the end.
Questions, REAL questions, asked in earnest, are NOT accusations.
"God is the name by which I designate all things which cross my path violently and recklessly, all things which alter my plans and intentions, and change the course of my life, for better or for worse."
-C G Jung