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Re: Parents: Punishing Kids
Tell it, Vesper.
This is not to say that ADD/ADHD don't present; they do, and when they do, the school should alert parents to behavioral problems that may be symptomatic.
You're right; parents hollering aren't exactly modeling self-control. And then there are the too-permissive parents who simply tolerate bad behaviors. Someone I love very much mothered her two sons that way (and it began with absolutely no sounds when the baby is sleeping--no TV in another room, no conversations above a whisper....). Older one was kicked out of every kindergarten and elementary school he attended, including the pricey private ones for which his grandparents had to pay.
The younger one was my son's playmate. When they were 4, and we were all in my friend's backyard, her boy picked up a 2 x 4 (dad was building a tree house) and hit my kid in the back as hard as he could. My friend's response was to sweetly reply, "Now that wasn't very nice. I'm afraid your friend is going to have to leave now." Her kid's response was to turn the garden hose on his mother at full blast and not joking, and my friend just stood there and fought a 4-year old, all the while talking calmly about how it was important that he give her the hose.
Took everything I had not to go all ninja myself. All these years later, unbelievable!
Tell it, Vesper.
This is not to say that ADD/ADHD don't present; they do, and when they do, the school should alert parents to behavioral problems that may be symptomatic.
You're right; parents hollering aren't exactly modeling self-control. And then there are the too-permissive parents who simply tolerate bad behaviors. Someone I love very much mothered her two sons that way (and it began with absolutely no sounds when the baby is sleeping--no TV in another room, no conversations above a whisper....). Older one was kicked out of every kindergarten and elementary school he attended, including the pricey private ones for which his grandparents had to pay.
The younger one was my son's playmate. When they were 4, and we were all in my friend's backyard, her boy picked up a 2 x 4 (dad was building a tree house) and hit my kid in the back as hard as he could. My friend's response was to sweetly reply, "Now that wasn't very nice. I'm afraid your friend is going to have to leave now." Her kid's response was to turn the garden hose on his mother at full blast and not joking, and my friend just stood there and fought a 4-year old, all the while talking calmly about how it was important that he give her the hose.
Took everything I had not to go all ninja myself. All these years later, unbelievable!