Short version: Everything I have ever read on the topic, and personal experience, and common sense, says that severity of punishment is not as important as certainty.
A time-out that a child knows will happen is far more effective at making him think about his actions than a beating that may or may not happen.
Restrictions and taking away privileges can last a while and be far more devastating than a beating.
So while, if consistently applied, a spanking is an effective method of discipline, it's not necessary as other, non-physical punishments are equally effective.
Therefore, since the world has still/Much good, but much less good than ill,
And while the sun and moon endure/Luck's a chance, but trouble's sure,
I'd face it as a wise man would,/And train for ill and not for good.
I voted yes. As a child all the way through my teenage years I was about as rotten a kid as you would find. Always in trouble for something. I wasn't mean just mischevious. I got swats as a child and always thought that the excitement of what I was doing wrong was worth the swats. That is until I was older. I got into some pretty bad trouble once when I was 17. My dad literally knocked me out. afterwords he explained why he did it. He didn't apologize he just told me what I was heading for. It was at that point I realized I was heading down a bad path. My dad and I are great friends and hang out all the time. I hold no bad feeling s towards him at all and still thank him to this day for making me understand where I was heading.
From that point until now I have never been in any kind of trouble at all.
My daughter is now 19 years old and in college doing great. In all of her years in this world she was only ever spanked once. She was 2 years old and threw a fit and knocked over a mirror on purpose. I popped her on the rear one time and sent her to her room. She never acted out again and we get along great. The difference is she wasn't like me. She was smarter. It only took once and she realized what it took me 17 years to learn.
I think every instance is different. I don't believe in hitting kids until they bleed but I do think Corporal Punishment is right in some cases. Just my opinion!
"You're the only person that decides how far you'll go and what you're capable of." - Ben Saunders (Explorer and Endurance Athlete)
If beating someone teaches them something (other than using violence to get what one wants), why aren't beatings part of the justice system?
Last edited by ecofarm; 09-19-14 at 01:59 PM.
There is quite a lot of technique in karate involving the open hand. I think open hand would demand a lot finer definition.
Its really not needed and only so effective. I got spanked once, only once, and as I eas mot very young at the time it bore truth to the expression 'this is going to hurt me more than you'. It eas written all over my dad's face.
Never gave his reason for a rematch after that.
While I have never hit my own child (so far... knock on wood) I cannot judge others as to whether its wrong or not. I think every parent has to make their own decision because every child and each environment they grow in is different so I cant decide for others either way.